OK, I'll dive in!
I'm probably the senior citizen of this thread so far, lol. Big 4-0, no kids, never been married or even engaged. I recently split with my BF after almost two years together. It's been extremely painful but with each day I know more and more I made the right decision. I truly thought he was the "one", our families liked eachother, etc etc. It was serious and we were deeply in love. It also was verbally abusive. Not good.
I am very independent, probably to a fault. Sure I need help with fixing things around my house, car, moving furniture, lol. I take good care of myself, look much younger than I am and make a good living (OK currently in between jobs but I do well thankyouverymuch). This is appealing to men but also intimidating to some. I don't mean that to be arrogant, it just is.
I went through a few years of depression in my late 20s/early 30s when it seemed all my friends were getting married, having kids and nothing was happening with me. I hardly dated much those years! hmmm.
Fast forward a few years and a few relationships and I started realizing yeah I'm living a non-traditional life (meaning single and no kids) BUT that means I have a gift...the gift of TIME. So...why waste that gift sitting around moping?
In my mid 30s I started exercising like crazy and got into the best shape of my life. How? I started walking 5 miles a day or more around my neighborhood and took up hockey even though I had never done sports as a kid. 35 lbs gone! I am not rail thin but I had packed on a few pounds in my early 30s and as I was coming out of my depression I realized I was feeling great on the inside and the outside wasn't reflecting that. The change was amazing! I also joined a co-ed league, mostly guys , but honestly I did not join the league to get dates. It's just a great community.
I do want to date again and eventually get married. I have a lot to give to a relationship and despite my current bumps in the road I am very optimisitc and know I'll get through this. I have amazing friends...yeah quite a few 30 and 40-somethings, mostly single, divorced, dating...we call it Sex and the Suburbs!!
Wow, you are amazing! I need to do more excersize even though I am not fat. It does help you feel better.