I work the graveyard shift at the hospital, and DH is a physician in training so he's never home. We have an awesome 19mo DS. He attends day care during the day. We hired two of his college student daycare teachers to help us babysit in the mornings (when DH needs to leave for work and before I get home) and evenings (when I leave for work and before DH gets home). I'll call them sitter #1 and #2. So they decide between the two of them who will do which shifts. #1 does most mornings, #2 does most evenings. About a month ago (their second month of "employment" with us), the week of the NBA Cavs finals, Sitter #2 asked me when DH was going to get home because she needed to tell her friends when she could meet up. I told her 8:30pm, but that I would call DH and see if he could escape earlier. (We pay $30 for 0-3 hrs, then $10/hr, so she would have made $30 to stay 6p-8:30p). DH gets home at 8pm and immediately finds sitter #2 with freshly done makeup on, sitting there painting her toenails. DS (who is in a different part of the house clearly out of view of #2) comes running to DH, carrying whole bing cherries WITH SEEDS AND STEMS! Yeah, he's 18mo old at this time. And she gave him whole cherries as snacks. DH is furious, I'm furious, #2 is basically a deer in the headlights. We like her as a person, we know she needs the money, so we give her a chance. Maybe she's a little slow. We give her the $30. Over the next couple of weeks, I cut up snacks/fruit and specify DS's snacks for her (like they do at daycare, which is probably why she hasn't killed anyone there) to give him. I suspect she doesn't read to him or pick up after him even though we asked. Whatever. So this week DH was out of town. #1 was going to stay overnight twice and #2 once while I worked. I felt safe with #1, but when #2 stayed over Tues night, she was late. For the first time, but still, that was a HUGE no-no with my job, and she knows that. Nothing "happened" that night, but I kept imagining my son choking on a large grape she might have given him and her thinking he's asleep and putting him in his crib. I imagined him head down in the toilet, or tumbling down the stairs because she didn't lock the gate. Bottom line, I can't get over the cherry incident. She's been working at a daycare for 2 years, so I don't think common sense such as this can be taught at this point. Our son honestly could have been dead. We want to not use her and only use #1. I spoke to #1, and she said #2 is lazy at the daycare too. Word went out that we were paying well for our super-duper-low-maintenance great kid, so #1 had a list of like 3 people at daycare who wanted to rotate into the schedule too. How do we transition #2 out? Our son is moving out of the daycare into a Montessori late August, but I can't even be at peace with #2 watching my son for even one more night. Also, we don't want #2 to mistreat our son if we don't use her, since she's one of his primary teachers for the next two months (although it would probably be just more neglect rather than mistreatment). Right now, I'm just telling her that simply our schedules are such that we don't need her. Although she will know that is B.S. because I wanted her to commit 2 yrs when we agreed to use her. This is a breach of our agreement, but I honestly think she is dangerous. If she asks an explanation, I have no problem telling her, but she asks for a second chance... how do I break to her "no"? I'm so bad with confrontation... help!