Don't feel bad about being picky - you have every right to be sure something is up to your standards before spending your hard earned money on it. Your DH may have been reading too much into it, especially if he thinks you're too picky. If they worked on commission I'd say shop elsewhere so someone who deserves it can earn commission on your purchases but its my understanding they don't so I would just continue to shop there and continue to speak up about getting the best bag - why should you buy a bag with flaw or scratch on it if there is a perfectly good one in the back.