I'll keep this brief because I'm really in a state of shock at the moment and do not know where to turn to for some advise. So I'm calling on my PF friends for help please My daughters ex-boyfriend was involved in a fight a couple of days ago. He was shot and killed. She is taking this so hard (rightfully so..it was her first love). I'm trying to console her to the best of my abilities. She doesn't feel she has the strength to visit his family at this time so I have offered to take some food over to their house so they know we are thinking of them and that we care. I just do not know what to say. We(my husband and I and his parents) have never formally spent any time together. Do I tell them who I am? Do I tell them I'm *****'s Mother? What do I say?? What if they invite me in?? What do I do?? I just have no words to express what I'm feeling for them and for my daughter..I just do not know what to do?