Here's a preface: My grandmother and I babysit my cousin Nicole (4). When I'm not home, she goes to my grandmother, and if I'm home she puts up such a fit until my grandmother allows her to come over to our house. It's difficult for us to have here here, since Julia is still so young and it's tough having to pay attention to a 4 year old who needs to be occupied every second that she's awake and to take care of a small baby. My grandmother is 74, and I feel bad if I make Nicole stay over there, because that is just more stress on my grandmother. For the past few days, she has been throwing fits. Screaming that she misses her mother and that she wants to drive to her work to visit her. I'm not going to stop my day so that I can pack up the baby, pack up Nicole and drive her over to the Bakery where her mom works. That's just not how I work. I understand that she misses her mom and everything, but...I don't know. I just can't deal with it much longer. I'm not prepared to deal with a screaming 4 year old and a small baby. How do I deal with this? I try to distract her when she's feeling this way, but it just doesn't work. She cries and cries until she throws up, like she did today and yesterday. I've talked to her mom about it, but she doesn't know what to do either. Ideally, she would quit working at the stupid Bakery so she could see her child during the hours that Nicole is awake, but whatever.