Ok.. so I am feeling the need to vent a little bit. Do any of you have inlaws that sorta leech off of you?? My DH has done well business wise and investment wise so we are comfortable however his sister can't hold a job or a husband and his mother has all kinds of problems with her health brought on by her overeating of too many sweets (which I can't feel sorry for if you bring on yourself.. it's a choice) she can hardly walk because of her weight and her knees and back aren't in good shape because of her weight yet I see her with sugar sugar sugar. Long story short :back2topic: we are going on a cruise in August and my husband mentioned that they would probly want to go to. MIL SIL and neice. Now we pay for all this since none of them work. The thing that is irking me I guess you could say is we or should I say HE just sent them on a two week cruise to Italy and Greece and here we are taking them on another cruise to the carrabiean. To top that off I didn't even get asked about it. All I heard is I think I'll ask x x and x if they want to go. Ok gee well let me think about this.... Hmmm I see them all the time cuz they are always on the boat we just bought.. hmm yea sure why wouldn't I want to share my family vacation with them. So I said what any wife would say "Sure honey whatever you like" we discuss it a bit more and I can't bring myself to say "Haven't we spent enough money on them?" We also pay for our neices car and a part of the rent and this and that and the MILs rent and we gave her a car and the list just hasn't slowed down yet. Mind you we don't do anything for my family because they don't ask they work hard and make their own way in the world. So my husband says to me yesterday "Oh by the way x x and x are going with us on the cruise." Just like that no discussing and I probly brought it on myself by not saying anything, but how can I without looking like a total turd. Uhh your family needs to get a life?? And he keeps babbeling because he doesn't get a reaction from me so he says well maybe we should invite x and X (his ex girlfriend and the inlaws are old family friends) and their parents to keep them company. Oh yea that went really well. So am I a turd for thinking bad things? Or am I putting up with too much in the first place. I would really like opinions on this because I feel really torn. I like them but I don't like what they do. Too bad we don't have a turd smiley I could have used it a few times in this long passage.