- May 17, 2006
Thank you for the congrats! She is wonderful, but I think you are right that I am a bit overwhelmed (with bags, yes, but also probably a bit with life changes) - it probably best not to make rash decisions when overwhelmed! I have thought about doing Kon Mari with my bags. I just need to find the time to do so. Baby girl doesn't really nap for more than 30-40 minutes at a time on her own, and Kon Mari when she's awake definitely isn't going to happen so right now it's just on a very long "to do, someday" list.You seem overwhelmed. If you are overwhelmed it is never a good idea to get rid of things. Congrats on the little one. They say it can take a year for your hormones are balanced so maybe it's best to wait that out?
If you really want your numbers down you can always start with Kon Mari. First get all your bags in one place. Then hold them to see how you feel. This sounds insane but if we were a bit more rational we would all own one bag and not ramble our time away about bags we own, bags we want an all those other bags out there.
If I'm very rational I could suggest that you start with your multiples but bags are emotion. If you doubt letting go of a bag, do not let it go. Some people say that a bag should be used but don't let go of a classic bag because it does not suit your needs now. Your kid will grow up and there will be a time for small bags again. These are your bags and there is no need to get rid of them just because the thought of them somehow doesn't sit well with you anymore.
Do not look at helpfull things that work for other people, but look at yourself. Why do you want your number down? Are you prone to regret or do you move along quite quickly? How often do you change styles? If you reason a bag away, how do you feel about it?
I do have to say that every purge is hard but you can get used to it. At first you are attatched to every bag. The bag that you never wear but makes you happy to look at is not the same as the bag you don't actually like but wear every day. Both have a place but you'll recognise the background noise. If you really don’t know where to start, just start with the bags you know you love and let them be. Just wear the ones you're not sure about for a week or a month and after that most people know what to do with it. You know if it fits, if it's practical and most of all if you are attatched to it or not.
I am so sorry this was so long. I really hope it helps. Enjoy the newborn and have fun cleaning out your closet.
I do very much appreciate the recognition that bags are emotion - they definitely are for me - and not to get rid of one if I doubt letting it go. The questions you ask are helpful. I want my number down because it just feels excessive. I aspire to be a minimal, capsule collection, signature style type person. I won't ever be - I know that. But if I could move a little bit in that direction, that would be nice. I am definitely prone to regret and do have some regrets over bags I've already sold - to the point that I've considered searching for them and buying them again. I mean, I haven't actually done so, but I haven't ruled out the possibility of doing so either. Fashion-wise, I'm drawn to all different styles, but with my bags I could stick with the same bag for months. I don't and have been really making an effort to change out my bags and use them all, but I definitely used to use the same bags for months and was fine with it. I can easily be talked in and out of things, so I can definitely reason away a bag and be fine with it...but that's not to say that I won't want it back down the line.
I think one of my biggest issues is bags I have that I am holding onto because I know they're good quality and others like them, but I'm not completely sure if I love them. My vintage Coach Court bag comes to mind. I remember a blogger raving about it, and I immediate went on the hunt to find one. I'm very easily influenced! I finally got one, and I like it fine, but I don't know if I like it because I truly do or if it's because I feel like I should. Everyone raves about vintage Coach leather, and it's true - it is wonderful leather. And it's similar in style to the Pochette Metis that is in such high demand, but I actually like the Court better than the Pochette Metis, so points there. But, I'm not sure it's a bag I would have ever been drawn to if not for the blogger or likeness to the Pochette Metis, and the likeness to the Pochette Metis only "matters" because it's a style everyone seems to love and thinks is so practical.
I could probably get rid of the Court and be fine. I don't have a sentimental attachment to it, and I'm not entirely sure it fulfills a purpose that can't be fulfilled by other bags I like better. BUT, I can't seem to actually let it go because I'm keep going back to what great quality it is and how it's a style everyone seems to love so much. I know my bags should be serving a purpose for ME and it shouldn't matter what others think or say. And I don't care what others think or say in terms of any sort of perceived prestige or lack thereof, but I do fear I'll regret getting rid of a quality bag in a style that seems to be almost universally agreed upon as uber practical. A great quality bag doesn't mean much if it's not being used and practicality only matters if it's practical for me - I know that. But I can't seem to get over all the things I've read about the quality and practicality enough to really sit with myself and decide if it's right for ME. Ugh...maybe I just need to use it more and try really hard to shut out the other voices and see how I feel about it...