yeah, apparently private auctions aren't allowed on eBay anymore. i think because they were overused/abused by scammers. but yeah, a great way around it is to tell the buyer as soon as you list (give item #), and only she will be able to find it then (designer items usually take at least 8 hours to show up).You cannot do this anymore. It takes a while for an auction to get on the search results so if you contacted the chosen buyer as soon as you listed she could buy the item before anybody else found it. I would contact your buyer and make sure she could be online for that time period.
Although the listing wll not show up straight away you can still sell it before it shows. The warning that flashes up once you list a designer items informs you that the listing may take upto 24 hours to show, but is searchable by the auction number. So all you do is as soon as it is listed send them the uaction number they key it into the search box and it will come up for them straight away!You cannot do this anymore. It takes a while for an auction to get on the search results so if you contacted the chosen buyer as soon as you listed she could buy the item before anybody else found it. I would contact your buyer and make sure she could be online for that time period.