Relationship Troubles

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just to reiterate what has been said, tell him up front that you are tired and that you would expect to be respected that you are not just a body but a real person... i like the porno video idea as well.. yeah, paper towels will be handy for him as well.. lol lol
 
My husband and I have been together for 15 years. We are 30 years old. We started dating at age 15 and have never been apart. He has had the same tremendous sex drive for the past 15 years. We, too, were occasionally having problems with him wanting it more than I did. I finally realized that we needed to compromise to be happy. I would go along with his desires more often and he would allow me to sleep when tired without *****ing more often too.

So my advice for you would be to talk to him about it soon, preferably when you are both in a good mood. Tell him that you love him and want him and find him so sexy, but that sometimes you really need sleep as much as he really needs sex. Tell him that when he goes to the couch, it hurts you so much and makes you want it even less. Tell him that if he could just hold you until you fall asleep sometimes, it would mean the world to you and make you want him that much more when you are rested.

Good luck. Horny men are hard to reason with! (no pun intended, really!)
 
Honestly, tell him to grow up. That shows you no respect. I learned a while back that many and most guys always have sex on their mind. There are still gentlemen out there- you don't have to go please some guy because he wants it. A 'reward'= PLEASE! I'd smack him. And if you are afriad he will leave you, then he really isn't a guy you want to be with.

That being said, I agree with LoriB. The best thing to do in a relationship is talk about it. Tell him what you told us- tell him how you feel. If he really cares and loves you, he will understand
 
Irishgal said:
Tell him to grow up and stop using sex as a barometer to measure how much you love him. You also might want to remind him that we do not like having sex with pouting men, it is not a turn on...

Couldnt have said that better myself!!!!!!!
You could also tell him that you have gas..that will send him running for the hills! LOL
Selena
 
Sorry, but he sounds like a loser. Or a 15 year old. He doesn't want to share a bed with you unless he gets everything his way? Find someone who understands that sex is one of many ways of expressing affection and not a "reward" and you'll probably be happier in the long term. Lots of relationships are imbalanced in terms of sexual appetite. If he can't deal with it, ultimately he's going to turn sex into a duty rather than a pleasure. I apologize if I've been blunt, but this is my opinion.
 
pursegalsf said:
Wow, it's the opposite for me. I want it everyday and he's the one that's always tired from work and not up for it :P

:shame:

I can relate, ugh! :Push: And he refuses to let me have a. . .uh. . .substitute. He says if I get one I wont need him anymore so when he wants it I wont want to.

But yeah. Lila give that man some lube and paper towels!
 
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