Anyone out their financially support their DH's immediate family? This has been a matter of contention for my bf and I...his parents are still reliatively young (late 40s) and have not been working for nearly 5 years. Currently, his older brother and sister support them (I mean, everything from their mortgage to their bills to their food $$). My bf feels like he "owes" his parents, and will give them nearly 1/3 of his paycheck every 2 weeks for the next year (while he is living at home). He will save most of his paycheck for our future wedding, but a LARGE chunk will be going to them. I understand the concept of him wanting to help out his parents, but to this extent? They aren't getting jobs anytime soon, either. I can also understand that he wants to help them while he lives at home, but what about when we move out and want to start our own life? Will we have to still support them then? What is a "reasonable" amount of $ to help them, and for how long?? This has caused me so much stress, it's almost unbearable. Sometimes, it makes me question the situation I may be getting myself into in the future. We have talked about this, and he has assured me that he is helping them "for now", but he will put our family first after we get married. However, he says that the bottom line is that they are his parents, and ultimately he will do "anything" for them. That scares me, since their situation is NOT changing any time soon (well...why would they change it, seeing as their children pay for everything?!) I am afraid we will have to be their financial crutch for god knows how long. Is this fair? Am I being selfish or unreasonable? Where do I draw the line? I don't mind helping them out FOR NOW, but I do not want to be stuck in an indefinite situation for an indefinite amount of time.