Hi- First of all- I just stumbled across this Gen Discussion forum today! There are a lot of great discussions going on and I am glad I found it! I usually spend all my time in the LV forum and will be visiting this now too! Everyone seems so open and honest here.
So this is what is on my mind- I have been dating my bf for a little over 4 yrs. We are both 28/29 yrs old. I have been feeling like I want to get engaged and start our lives together and have been jealous at my married/engaged friends lately. We talk about "when we get married we will do this and that" a lot and I am sure that he wants to marry me eventually, but it is frustrating because I wish we could just get engaged and "seal the deal" and get on with our lives.
In February I asked him when he thought we would get married and he said that he thinks that this year could be it, so I don't know if I should bring it up again unless it doesn't happen by the end of the yr. I don't think it will happen at least until fall because my life is kind of in transition now. My mom moved in with me after my dad passed away a year ago, but is thinking of moving out in the next couple of months so it has kind of been a different circumstance too.
I have been feeling down because our married couple friends came over for dinner last weekend and I got kind of envious and felt like they seemed like such more of a couple than we were since we weren't married. We don't live together either because we had said we wouldn't live together before marriage because our families wouldn't approve and I am craving for that security now of coming home to him and falling asleep/waking up together. I am so sick when people ask "when will you guys get engaged or whats taking him so long" and I know its wrong, but I start to feel embarrased like something is wrong with me or our relationship. So anyway I was just wondering what advice you guys had and if you could share what feelings you might have had before you got engaged, or if you are waiting to get engaged.
Sorry for the long post!
So this is what is on my mind- I have been dating my bf for a little over 4 yrs. We are both 28/29 yrs old. I have been feeling like I want to get engaged and start our lives together and have been jealous at my married/engaged friends lately. We talk about "when we get married we will do this and that" a lot and I am sure that he wants to marry me eventually, but it is frustrating because I wish we could just get engaged and "seal the deal" and get on with our lives.
In February I asked him when he thought we would get married and he said that he thinks that this year could be it, so I don't know if I should bring it up again unless it doesn't happen by the end of the yr. I don't think it will happen at least until fall because my life is kind of in transition now. My mom moved in with me after my dad passed away a year ago, but is thinking of moving out in the next couple of months so it has kind of been a different circumstance too.
I have been feeling down because our married couple friends came over for dinner last weekend and I got kind of envious and felt like they seemed like such more of a couple than we were since we weren't married. We don't live together either because we had said we wouldn't live together before marriage because our families wouldn't approve and I am craving for that security now of coming home to him and falling asleep/waking up together. I am so sick when people ask "when will you guys get engaged or whats taking him so long" and I know its wrong, but I start to feel embarrased like something is wrong with me or our relationship. So anyway I was just wondering what advice you guys had and if you could share what feelings you might have had before you got engaged, or if you are waiting to get engaged.
Sorry for the long post!