Ok, so what would you ladies do in a situation like this? I am not finding any more good advice to give after watching someone suffer in relationship yo-yo hell for, goodness, 7 or 8 years by now. Linda lets call her is married to Paulo they love each other dearly, but Paulo is not a necessarily stable guy, to say the least. He will treat Linda so well for a month, and then he will just lose it and go silent he just comes home, ignores her, treats her as if she is a burden to him just shuts off so, the past two times this has happened Linda has said ok, that is enough, you are making me crazy and I am losing my life by trusting you when you are nice feeling safe and then you go and pull the rug out from under my feet you are like two different people! He suddenly snaps back goes to the shrink, acts like nothing happens, begs her to stay .and, hey she loves him so she sets herself up for yet another repeat of the drama He refuses relationship counseling, and she has found a new emotions better known as suicidal tendencies he seems oblivious honestly. He loves her, but he just cant see that she isnt ok anymore because of this yoyo hell (she is in therapy now but she stopped the Zoloft a couple of weeks ago not a good move, Im thinking) Finally, a couple of months ago, she hit the road to be alone and think got home, and even though he was being nice, she asked him to move out, so he did then, they became as friends again she was happy things were going so well so, a week after he moves out, she invites him to her apartment for dinner long story short, he didnt leave again they became like newly weds again and all of us secretly hoped and prayed that maybe he learned how to treat her since she had gone so far as to get on an airplane No such luck Paulo came home after work one day looked at her with disgust she had actually cooked a lovely meal his favorite she had been guarding her heart but, just when she decided to let the guard down he did it again he came home, walked into the bedroom, ignored the table, put on his headphones and turned up the television Linda cried and cried, and then finally called me she is now embarrassed that it has happened again that she has again played the fool and is afraid that her friends will stop talking to her since she has been so gullible, they have picked her up a million times, and back she goes He doesnt beat her he doesnt yell he just treats her with cold indifference and she is lucky if she happens to even know why I am afraid it is too much this time. I think she should change the locks and throw his stuff out The problem is I think our Paulo is very ill, and he doesnt even know what he is doing EEEEKKKSSS! What would you say to a friend in this situation? How would you help?