My family has been going through a difficult time this year with cancer. First my aunt with bone cancer, then my uncle with colon cancer (he just went into hospice today) and now my 35 year old sister in law was dignosed this past August with stage three breast cancer (it's already in her chest). My family is small. My aunt and uncle are my mom's only siblings and I only have one sibling and that's my brother. I'm not really sure how to handle all of this. My sister in law and brother are coming with their two young children this weekend and I don't know how to act around her. Geez, I'm an idiot. I guess my biggest question is should we tell her and my brother that my uncle is about to die? Also, do you think she wants to talk about her illness or am I supposed to pretend like everything is fine? My brother said she is sick of everyone having sad faces around her. I've sent her cards and books, but this is the first time that I will see her. She has lost her hair and I know she will be uncomfortable with the wig. I'm so sad when I think about what she is going through. I love her very much but I'm not sure she realizes it because our relationship hasn't always been perfect. We have never been openly mean but there is some underlying tension. We are both strong women and for some weird reason she seems to resent good things that happen in my life. Don't ask me why. My brother and I have never been like that and I would want nothing but good things for my brother and his family. It must be something that goes on in her family? Anyway, none of it matters. I just wanted you guys to know so that you could understand how she may be feeling around me. So, that's the story. I'm sorry this is so long. Has anyone had cancer or have someone close to them have cancer? Please help me. I need someone to give me a "cancer for dummies" course on how to act and what are some things that I can do to help. Thanks so much.