I'm twenty, and a relationship that was a very large part of my life recently ended ( around a month ago). My ex ( who is 25)stated he needed time to concentrate on his new job and his life- that having a girlfriend was getting to be too restrictive and too stressful. We dated long distance for over a year and a half. He was my first super serious boyfriend, and I honestly cared about him quite a bit. I'm really picky when it comes to boys, so the fact that I dated him for so long proved how serious I was. Basically, he was a huge turning point in my life, he helped me to overcome a lot of problems I was dealing with, and he seriously gave me the confidence and motivation to change my life around.
Since the break-up, I've realized how self-reliant I can be, and I'm seriously so pleased to find out that I don't need to depend on someone else for my happiness, and that I can do fine all on my own.
Still, I have a zillion lingering feelings for him- despite the fact that I'm allowing myself to be interested in other people. I still slip and call him "boyfriend" He still calls me all the time. He really wants to drive down and see my next weekend, and I'm at a loss for what to say. Part of the reason who broke up was bc we never saw each other. I haven't seen him in a couple of months, and I'm really nervous about allowing him to come!
While this post may seem to be just an excuse for me to spill my relationship drama on an anyonomous audience, there's more to it!
Since I'm only 20, and have limited perspective on this situation, I'm curious as to how everyone elses past relationships have affected their lives- and if you ever truly get over the first person you fall in love with. While naive, I seriously thought I would end up marrying this guy- and now I'm not sure if I want to see him next week!
So, is any still haunted by relationships that ended before you wanted them to? Also, any friendly advice would be appreciated. My friends all just think he's a huge jerk and should have nothing to do with him. :-P
Since the break-up, I've realized how self-reliant I can be, and I'm seriously so pleased to find out that I don't need to depend on someone else for my happiness, and that I can do fine all on my own.
Still, I have a zillion lingering feelings for him- despite the fact that I'm allowing myself to be interested in other people. I still slip and call him "boyfriend" He still calls me all the time. He really wants to drive down and see my next weekend, and I'm at a loss for what to say. Part of the reason who broke up was bc we never saw each other. I haven't seen him in a couple of months, and I'm really nervous about allowing him to come!
While this post may seem to be just an excuse for me to spill my relationship drama on an anyonomous audience, there's more to it!
Since I'm only 20, and have limited perspective on this situation, I'm curious as to how everyone elses past relationships have affected their lives- and if you ever truly get over the first person you fall in love with. While naive, I seriously thought I would end up marrying this guy- and now I'm not sure if I want to see him next week!
So, is any still haunted by relationships that ended before you wanted them to? Also, any friendly advice would be appreciated. My friends all just think he's a huge jerk and should have nothing to do with him. :-P