Even when people are in emotional pain, (I was. Don't ask, I have a long list of huge problems and childhood problems, almost everything you can name.) sometimes getting help really does make a difference. My relatives suggested I go to therapy. At first I was like, "No why. What am i supposed to say? This whole thing will be so stupid." Then after 3 sessions, it really did help. Even just the idea of treatment can help. I'm sorry she died though. That's so sad. I'm sure she's looking down on you and thanking you for caring about her.