I made the very stupid mistake last week of saying no to a Black Birkin 35 clemence that an SA offered me after it had come in unexpectedly. I thought that I wanted the gold hardware and it's too late to change my mind. It's gone, of course. But maybe the pause is not all bad, I now need to decide if I really want a bolide or a birkin. It's a concern that the birkin just looks too ostentatious, and if I think that is it not already a problem? I genuinely love the quality of the bags. Only have a wallet so far but any bag I have seen has impressed me. Any guidance?