Hi again Kou
Without pretending to know how things really are with you, I think we can all feel an undercurrent of unhappiness in your posts. An engagement after all should be a joyous occasion; instead I read a sense of uncertainty and frustration from you. It's the sort of difficult situation that can grow into resentment, anger and bitterness later in life. I know, I have been there and I am still working through it in my own life.
Perhaps it all boils down to how much you really love each other. Is this person someone you can't imagine life without? You are after all, already in a long-distance relationship. Is he someone whom you would be willing to make such a huge sacrifice for? It seems to me that despite the constraints to advancement at your workplace, you do like where you are and what you do. Pulling up roots and starting over in a new place is terribly difficult and would strain even the strongest relationship. Because if you do make this sacrifice and give up what you have, you would need to do so wholeheartedly, and put it behind you, along with any thoughts of "I should have ... I shouldn't have ..." for things to work.
It's vital that he understands where you're coming from because so much of who we are, and how we see ourselves, is bound up in our work -- our success and happiness in our work place, in our stature in our chosen field, in our feeling that we are making a contribution to our profession. Is he willing to find a middle ground? A third country perhaps? Or a set time frame within which you will both have to consider other options?
I pray you will find the answers that will be right for YOU. In the meantime, I wonder if you have considered going to headhunters? Here are some executive search firms I dug up on the Internet. I am not certain if all this information is current. I'll try to look up more in the next few days. Oh, and don't believe everything you read or hear about how difficult it is to get a job here. Just cast your net as wide as you can, send complete papers and photographs, and don't be discouraged.
The very best of luck to you.
--------------
Amrop Hever Singapore
Bob Gattie
Gattie-Tan Soo Jin Consultants Pte Ltd
3 Shenton Way
#11-08 Shenton House
Singapore 068805
Tel: (65) 6225-3188
Fax: (65)6224-7585
Email
[email protected]
Website
Amrop Hever Services SPRL / BVBA
Egon Zehnder International Pte Ltd
Mr. Davy Lau
6 Battery Road #37-01
Singapore 049909
Tel (65) 6225-0355 Fax (65) 6225-0352
Email
[email protected]
Website
http://www.egonzehnder.com
Heidrick & Struggles
Ms. Kyung H. Yoon, Managing Partner
9 Temasek Boulevard
#32-02 Suntec Tower Two
Singapore 038989
Tel (65) 332-5001 Fax (65) 338-1260
Email
Website
http://www.heidrick.com/
Search Focus Consultants (Executive Search)
The Penthouse
7 Temasek Boulevard
#44-01 Suntec Tower One
Singapore 038987
Tel: 65-6333-0969
Fax: 65-6430-6699
Email:
[email protected]
Website
http://www.cornerstone-group.com
Ms. Priscilla Tan, Managing Director
TMP Hudson Global Resources
Website
http://hudson.com/sg/
Russell Reynolds Associates, Inc.
Singapore
Tel (65) 225-1811 Fax (65) 224-4058
Email
Website
http://www.russellreynolds.com
Robertson Smart International Executive Search Singapore
80 Raffles Place
UOB Plaza 2#12-20
Singapore 048624
Singapore
Phone: +65 6535 9969
Fax: +65 6535 9949
E-mail:
[email protected]
Robertson Smart International Executive Search
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, san-serif]Templar International Consultants Pte Ltd
[/FONT]1 Scotts Road
Shaw Centre
#26-02
Singapore 228208
Tel: (65) 6238 2060
Fax65) 6238 2061
[email protected]
And a website on finance jobs in Singapore:
Finance jobs by company in Singapore