Hi people. I'm hoping to get a woman's view on an issue that's been bugging me for a few months now. It has intensified these couple of weeks. You see, I'm a guy and a collector of material things (not handbags) myself so I understand the passion that most of you have with your bags. Some of you probably would call your passion an addiction even. I've been there and done that. Let me tell you what I'm currently experiencing and I'd fully appreciate your honest response no matter how insensitive it might be. You see, I've always been pretty supportive with my other half's love for handbags. I never really get how women can spend thousands of dollars on handbags but then again, to each their own right? She's only been into it for a couple of years so as a collector of some sort nearly all my life, I know that there are periods where one will go nuts buying item after item and then the urge will eventually die off. Here's my beef. She has bought four handbags in a couple of months. Close to 8 this calendar year. I am really concerned about this behaviour because she is spending way beyond her means. I've been a collector of stuff all my life but I've never really been in over my head. Ever. To me, dropping thousands upon thousands of dollars on something in such a short period of time is just irresponsible especially when there are priorities like a mortgage and a child on the way. I've tried talking some sense into her that we're not wealthy and although we are privileged enough to enjoy a modest amount of disposal income, it's certainly not enough to support a habit of 1 bag a month or even 1 bag a couple of months (we're talking LV, Chanel & Gucci). She's assured me after every purchase that it's her last but it never is and frankly, I'm so sick of it that I just want to avoid her for the fear that I might blow my top and regret what I say afterwards. I've reasoned that she is not from a wealthy family and also, she's not someone that's pulling in the big bucks. I've also asked her why she needed so many expensive bags when we don't even go out to executive functions that would justify her dressing up. In fact, if she goes out dressed up like Audrey Hepburn to the movies and I'm in my shorts and thongs (slippers), she'd probably feel that I'm embarrassing her. I believe that one should dress appropriately for an event but with our lifestyle and social status, we'd probably be at a formal event a handful of times a year at most. Sometimes, I feel inadequate that I can't provide for her excessiveness and it's got to a point that I have thought to myself that she's better off with a rich guy. I've put myself in her position and I find that even when I was at the peak of my interest in a hobby, I'd always stop and think what bills I have due before I pull the trigger. What upsets me the most is that she does not even stop and think that we have a child on the way. It seems like I'm the only one that's concerned after reading and hearing news and advice from friends and family with children on how much kids cost nowadays. We're not talking about 50 dollars here and there but hundreds and most of the time, thousands of dollars that she's spending here. I've always asked her how she wants others to perceive her. Does she want to look like a million bucks but have nothing in the bank? I'm sure her friends and family knows that her job's not paying THAT good. She can fool people on her daily forum visits and posts but in reality, I don't know what she's trying to proof. That's for letting me vent. I'd appreciate your comments.