I'm having an issue with one of my very close friends. He has always been a little eccentric, but the last few times ive had him over to just hang out hes really seemed kind of disrespectful. Heres the story: My parents went to Europe last month for a couple weeks and I decided to stay here and watch the house and animals. He offered to come over and keep me company a couple days and I really was looking forward to having some company. He came by and brought snacks and movies which was nice, but as dinner time rolled around he suggested pizza. sure, thats fine, i'm not picky, but i told him i had a really good one in the freezer that we could just put in the oven. he said he felt like ordering pizza, so we did. Call in for delivery, a few minutes goes by and he says that he has no cash and asked if i had enough to cover it ( ) A little taken back I just said that i did. 26 dollars later we get our dinner and put a movie in. He excuses himself to the bathroom and returns a few minutes later, we finish the movie and call it a night. he heads home and i go upstairs to get ready for bed. Next morning at 5 am my dogs decide they need to go out NOW so out they go, i prepare their breakfasts and go to the bathroom while theyre outside barking at who knows what. Now this is what got me... i flush and my friend last night clogged my toilet! gROSS! ive never dealt with that, i have NO idea where the plunger is and my skin is just crawling. Fuming mad I let my dogs in and do their morning feeding then try to go back to sleep. That afternoon my boyfriend comes over, I told him about what happened, bless his heart he said not to worry he would fix it, but alas, we searched and could not find the plunger. we had to call my 78 year old grandfather to fix it. disgusting. Anyways. Next week rolls around. I am a pretty passive person by nature and blow off the event that happened the week before. I invite my friend over again but instead of ordering in food we went out. I told him since I bought dinner last week that it would be fair if he got it this week. to this, he replied 'wow youre forward arnt you??' silly me, i thought that would be a fair suggestion!! Fastforward to later that evening, were watching another movie, he had brought over snacks and drinks and were were just watching the film and catching up. He excuses his self again, at this point redflags and flares went off in my head and i told him what happened last week. he said a quick sorry and not to worry. Movie ends, he takes all partially eaten snacks/drinks/ and even my leftovers ( ) home with him, and i go up stairs and turn in for the night, feeling a bit confused about this whole thing. Next morning, i'm up at 5 with my pups doing the morning routine again and i bet you can guess... HE DID IT AGAIN!!! at this point i was livid to say the least. Later that morning i called him and told him what happened and to come over with something to fix it. after making a few excuses, he wouldnt come over to help me. My boyfriend came by again that afternoon, and was probably just as upset as i was that this happened twice, with out my 'friend' telling me that he did this at all. we havnt spoken in 2 or 3 weeks since that has happened because frankly? im sick of it. Now heres the problem, his birthday is coming up soon and he just asked (via txt message) if my boyfriend and i wanted to join them. theyre going to bar hop in boston, which as he knows, i really dont enjoy (my hearing isnt that wonderful so this is a hard environment for me), but i would normally still go and just try to have a good time with my friends. I'm really torn what i should do. not just about his birthday, but our friendship in general. this situation is kind of poking at the last ounce of patience i have with this guy. through out our friendship (about 8 or 9 years) ive not led on that i was overly upset at something, or that i thought something was disrespectful, i think because of this i tend to get walked on more than others (i am a sucker to make others happy apparently). becacuse as i said, im very lax about a lot of things, and i really try not to let things bother me to much, but i feel as though im at the end here. I'm not feeling that he is respecting our friendship, and this is one of a few examples I've seen which would support that. should I try to save the friendship or just let it fizzle out (which i have tried a few times over the years with no luck at all)? should i suck it up and go to his birthday in boston? is there a way i should confront him about this that wouldnt cause to much drama? he knows i am very upset at what happened, do i need to explain it further to him? Ive never really had an issue that bothered me so much with a friend and am so lost at how to handle this!