For the past couple of years, I have been dreaming of getting a Birkin (preferably BJ 35). My dh laughed when I first told him, but then he said that I could get one when I return to work full-time in September of 2008 (am currently working only part-time so I can stay home with my son). The other day, we were in NYC for one of his races and I asked him if we could stop at H afterwards. He said we could, but then he said he thought I would have given up on wanting one of their bags by now. He also said that he was hoping I would lose interest by the time I go back to work full-time because it is crazy to actually spend that much on a bag. I got very upset because I realized he had been hoping all along that I would never actually follow through with getting a Birkin. The thing is when I return to work full-time, we could definitely afford it (we could now too, but I don't want to push it). However, I will feel bad getting one if it really upsets him/bothers him. He told me he feels that the money should be saved for the future, but I pointed out that we already save a great deal of money for the future (we make large monthly contributions to our IRAs and our son's 529). Then he countered with the fact that the money could go to charity and I reminded him that we already give a great deal to charitable causes (at least 10-15% of our take home pay). I hardly ever spend our money on myself- my few designer bags were mostly gifts/from gift money(he even admits this) and we live a very simple (low-cost) lifestyle that we both enjoy. To me, the Birkin would be my one luxury to enjoy, but I won't be able to enjoy it if he thinks it is crazy. What can I say to make him understand? I appreciate any advice.