I have to vent! I want to call the Dr. Laura show but her show is not on yet!
I married a Philipino person and I am a Native American/Mexican. Now, I never really clicked with my husbands family I DREAD all holidays with his family. ALL of them speak perfectly well English, they are all professionals. But I just think it is rude to speak a different langauge when there are others that can not understand it. It seems they puposely exclude me from their conversations. He has a rather large family but they are not close at all. Some of his family members will sit on the couch for hours at a time and not talk at all.
Now, I am a stay at home mom and MY personal opinion is that I want to raise my kids- I do not want them in daycare. BUT my sister in law has her son in daycare 12 hours a day and asks me why I do not work. She gave me a dirty look when she noticed I had a Louis Vuitton bag. I remember when I started creating life that they started asking my husband when I was going to get a job. I guess since his mom worked when they were kids, I am supposed to "work" Since being a SAHM is NOT a JOB.
I am just giving a little back ground so you all could see where I come from. One if his nephews started making fun of my then 4 year old daughter for being a Native American. I mean just being a total ******* and down right cruel and making racist remarks. We were in front of my husbands mother and I expected ONE of them to say something but NOTHING. I wanted to punch that kid(he was 18) in the face, my poor daughter did not know what to do. When we got home I cried, I was so hurt and angry that nothing was said. I told my husband to call the nephews mom but it was his older sister and he wussed out. My point is, there is alot of this in his family. They think is it funny to make fun of my now 6 year old daughter and me for being Native AMerican or for being a sahm. I told my hsuband that I am a ticking time bomb and I going to tell his family off next time this happens and he KNOWS I will.
NOw back to today. WE planned on going to his side for Thanskgiving since my fmaily is going to be close to Vegas and I did no want my husband to drive so I told him we do not have to go. HIs mom called yesterday saying one of his sisters has to work so Thanksgiving is cancelled till Sat. (WTF- WHO "cancels" Thanksgiving?") But she always leave messages in Tagalog, so I can not tell him what she is saying, he has to come home and listen to it. So we planned on taking the kids to the movies and out to dinner here. I was happy because his family lives about 2 hours from hereso less driving. SO his mom calls and says well there is a party now and the sister did not have to work, etc. you can come now.
AFter they cancelled it? It just seems rude to cancel and expect us to go. I talked to his mom and she said we better come and I told her we are not and she wanted to know why but I gave the phone to my husband and she started yelling at him. SO he decided to change the plans he made (taking the kids to the movies, dinner) and he says ok.
I was so pissed and I told him no I am not going we already have plans. The kids did not want to go so they stayed with me. SO he left us with no car, no money on Thanksgiving! His family is ssoooooo important to him that he did not even go, he went to go gamble.
SO yup, my Thanksgiving sucked.
monica
I married a Philipino person and I am a Native American/Mexican. Now, I never really clicked with my husbands family I DREAD all holidays with his family. ALL of them speak perfectly well English, they are all professionals. But I just think it is rude to speak a different langauge when there are others that can not understand it. It seems they puposely exclude me from their conversations. He has a rather large family but they are not close at all. Some of his family members will sit on the couch for hours at a time and not talk at all.
Now, I am a stay at home mom and MY personal opinion is that I want to raise my kids- I do not want them in daycare. BUT my sister in law has her son in daycare 12 hours a day and asks me why I do not work. She gave me a dirty look when she noticed I had a Louis Vuitton bag. I remember when I started creating life that they started asking my husband when I was going to get a job. I guess since his mom worked when they were kids, I am supposed to "work" Since being a SAHM is NOT a JOB.
I am just giving a little back ground so you all could see where I come from. One if his nephews started making fun of my then 4 year old daughter for being a Native American. I mean just being a total ******* and down right cruel and making racist remarks. We were in front of my husbands mother and I expected ONE of them to say something but NOTHING. I wanted to punch that kid(he was 18) in the face, my poor daughter did not know what to do. When we got home I cried, I was so hurt and angry that nothing was said. I told my husband to call the nephews mom but it was his older sister and he wussed out. My point is, there is alot of this in his family. They think is it funny to make fun of my now 6 year old daughter and me for being Native AMerican or for being a sahm. I told my hsuband that I am a ticking time bomb and I going to tell his family off next time this happens and he KNOWS I will.
NOw back to today. WE planned on going to his side for Thanskgiving since my fmaily is going to be close to Vegas and I did no want my husband to drive so I told him we do not have to go. HIs mom called yesterday saying one of his sisters has to work so Thanksgiving is cancelled till Sat. (WTF- WHO "cancels" Thanksgiving?") But she always leave messages in Tagalog, so I can not tell him what she is saying, he has to come home and listen to it. So we planned on taking the kids to the movies and out to dinner here. I was happy because his family lives about 2 hours from hereso less driving. SO his mom calls and says well there is a party now and the sister did not have to work, etc. you can come now.
AFter they cancelled it? It just seems rude to cancel and expect us to go. I talked to his mom and she said we better come and I told her we are not and she wanted to know why but I gave the phone to my husband and she started yelling at him. SO he decided to change the plans he made (taking the kids to the movies, dinner) and he says ok.
I was so pissed and I told him no I am not going we already have plans. The kids did not want to go so they stayed with me. SO he left us with no car, no money on Thanksgiving! His family is ssoooooo important to him that he did not even go, he went to go gamble.
SO yup, my Thanksgiving sucked.
monica