as far as i can tell, all is well. i just got an email that my account has a pending refund. she's even refunding the original shipping i paid, so it looks like the only damage will be about 8 bucks for the return shipping. phew!
thanks again to everyone here for the the help and advice. i go back and forth between being too impulsive and then too indecisive so sometimes i really need some input. here's to hoping shopping isn't this frustrating again!