I posted a few months ago about my job at a Broadway-level performing arts center. It's a very cliquey environment and I did my best to fit in at first. After getting the message that those people don't want to be my friends I stopped trying. I'm not cold, but I'm stopped going out of my way to make friends since I got sick of being rebuffed constantly. Also, for me my work and my personal life are completely separate. I've seen it get nasty too many times. So today my boss kept me after to talk about the "distance" between me and the other student employees. I told her how the student manager was treating me differently than the other student employees and holding me to double standards. She agreed with me on that and is going to talk to him. But as far as the other students employees go, HER take on the situation was completely different: My taste in fashion is TOO expensive. Yes, that's right. Apparently I have aliented the other students because I wear lacoste tennis shirts and designer jeans to work. I only wear my CLs occasionally, and they're the black simple pumps! I usually wear my Gucci loafers or black flats and they don't have monograms all over them so there's no way any of them would know they were designer. The other students wear T-shirts and ripped jeans with flip-flops and the student managers rarely wear polo shirts. I take pride in my appearance and believe that since I work in the box office I am a representative of the arts center and the link between patrons and the center. Therefore I should look the part. Well, needless to say I disagreed with her but I was instructed to no longer talk about my clothing. I think it's ridiculous. She said that how I dress makes the other students 'uncomfortable' because they can't afford the same level of clothing. My boyfriend always chides me that you'd never know I was wealthy because usually I'm in my birkis and T-shirts and I don't ever talk about my money. As far as how much I could spend on clothing and accessories, I'm actually quite prudent. So I was shocked when I was basically told that my clothing choices made other people think I was snobby and that I was basically responsible. I only wear nice clothes to work. Since I'm a college student I usually wear sweatpants and sneakers to class! Why didn't they just take the chance to get to know me? Instead they judged me and assumed that I'm a snob when I'm anything but. (Although after reading this post it looks like it I'm really not and my close friends vary in levels of SES). Ugh, this is just a rant because I am sick of people thinking that if you wear nice clothes you're a snob. It may be true that lots of snobs wear nice clothes but I've never felt so judged or stereotyped before. I hate that there's a double standard where it's ok to talk about how broke you are and how cheap you bought your clothes but if you're well dressed you deserve to be held after work and chastised for it.