I am a stepmom of two girls and belong to a stepmom group here in my area. I've become friendly with a lot of the women and one of my closer friends from this group called me today. She has a 16 y.o. stepdaughter and apparently this girl has a myspace account. This friend of mine works as a programmer in the IT industry and apparently was given some type of hacker code that exploits a security hole in myspace so that private pages and comments can be read. She used this code to read her stepdaughter's private pages and apparently the stepdaughter wrote some nasty stuff about her there. She is really upset because she had always felt they had a good relationship and got along well, and this has shown her the girl's true feelings. I am not sure what to tell this person. On the one hand, I guess if her stepdaughter feels that way about her, she should know the truth. On the other hand, kids that age can be mean and say things like this without thinking about it. There is also the issue of privacy and the fact that she broke into the myspace page the way she did. She called me very upset and has not told her husband yet about what she did. She asked for MY advice and I have no idea what to tell her because I am not sure what I'd do if it were me, either.... I personally think ignorance is bliss and would probably have not attempted to get that information from the myspace page, but apparently she felt the need to do that, so who knows. I told her that she just needs to quietly detach from the stepdaughter for a while and not go out of her way to do anything extra so she does not feel hurt. I also told her that she probably should not tell her husband. Apparently she is depressed about this and not hiding it real well and he's noticed and wants to know what's wrong. What would YOU do?