Argh-I don't even know where to start with this one-I am just annoyed. OK-I am married to a man with 2 sisters, both of whom are quite a bit older than him (he was an OOPS! baby). I have spoken of the oldest SIL before, I will call her Cheapo for sake of this story-the stories are endless with this one-but, anyway..............
We throw a Christmas party every year-at least for the last 8 years now. I am not stingy when it comes to inviting people to my home-I go all out and make sure there is tons of food for everybody, tons of drink and tons of goodies. Everyone knows this about me-I got it from my Italian grandmother who always used to say that better there are leftovers than someone goes wanting. The party costs us a pretty penny, etc etc.
Now, my husband's family always come. It is my MIL's birthday on Dec. 24th (welll-we found out a long time ago that her actual birthday is Dec. 11th-but, she had always said it was Dec. 24th-we found out the real date when i found her papers from when she came to this country back in the late 30s). So, it is still celebrated by everyone on Dec. 24th. Every year the Cheapo SIL wants to have a birthday cake for my MIL-I personally would prefer not to-being a christian I would rather just celebrate the Christmas holiday and celebrate MILs birthday another day-but, whatever, i get outvoted every year on this.
So, every year, cheapo SIL gets a birthday cake for MIL which she proceeds to ask her brother (my husband) and her sister (we will call her other SIL) to chip in for. This bugs me to no end, because, first of all-why can't you pay for a birthday cake for your own mother?? Her and her husband are far from destitute and paying for a cake won't hurt them in the least. Besides the fact that no matter how many people I have here for Christmas, she always gets a small cake-just for show basically, and never takes into consideration the amount of people here who might want some. The cakes she buys are always from BJs (like Costco-big warehouse stores), so , they are cheap-I am talking $12 birthday cakes. I personally find it very tacky of her to go around at our Christmas party asking her brother and sister for $4 a piece to chip in for mom's cake. Now, you are probably thinking-well, she is their mother too, why shouldn't they pay for the cake also? That is a good point, I guess it just bugs me that it is always her idea to get the cake, she chooses where to get it-what kind to get, what size and all and then brings it here not caring about anyone else's opinion on it and then wants money for it. Can you tell I have issues with this woman? LOL
Which brings me to my real point of posting. So, this year, no exception, she again is bringing the birthday cake. Christmas, as you know, is this coming Monday. She bought the cake this past Friday! She said she went to BJs for something else and since she was there already, she got the cake! Hubby and I freaked out on her about getting a bakery cake over a week before time and how it was going to be cr-p-etc. etc. She claims she thought Christmas was this past Monday-but, her hubby told us on the sly that that wasn't true-she just didn't want to be bothered going back again just for a cake-so, bought it anyway.
After hubby and I said that it would be garbage sitting around for a week (she was whining that she couldn't bring it back because she had had it personalized already)-she then said she would put it in her freezer for a week and then bring it. Which we still didn't like and told her we thought it would be awful after being frozen-a bakery cake wasn't meant to be frozen like that-bla bla bla. It is not something we would do-we like our cakes fresh and always pick it up at the bakery that day-perhaps the day before. But, this is a woman who brought a 13 year old bottle of apple cider to her son's house for Thanksgiving! You should have seen what this looked like-ugh!
Anyway-after much back and forth and a not nice scene between hubby and SIL-SIL says she is bringing the cake anyway and that she would eat it and MIL would eat it and they wouldn't die. SIL also said that since we were so upset for "no reason", the cake would be her treat. We said fine-do whatever you like.
Today I get an email form her saying that she happened to be at BJs again and asked the bakery department about freezing the cake and they said it was fine-it is done all the time. That is all she said about it. Now, hubby feels that she will ask us and other SIL for money for the cake since BJs says it is good., I told hubby, just because BJs says it is ok doesn't mean we have to give her money, since our opinion is still that it will s--k!
So, again, I guess this sounds petty in a way-but, things like this go on all the time and there is tons of back story to this woman. So, if she goes back on it being her treat because BJs says it is fine to freeze and asks hubby for money-do we give it to her or not? I don't even know if she will ask or not-and, it is Christmas, I don't want a fight in the house, but, the whole thing irks me to no end....................
If you made it this far-thank you. If you think I am just being a whiney PITA about it all-that is fine too. Sometimes when it comes to hubby's family-I get nutso-LOL
We throw a Christmas party every year-at least for the last 8 years now. I am not stingy when it comes to inviting people to my home-I go all out and make sure there is tons of food for everybody, tons of drink and tons of goodies. Everyone knows this about me-I got it from my Italian grandmother who always used to say that better there are leftovers than someone goes wanting. The party costs us a pretty penny, etc etc.
Now, my husband's family always come. It is my MIL's birthday on Dec. 24th (welll-we found out a long time ago that her actual birthday is Dec. 11th-but, she had always said it was Dec. 24th-we found out the real date when i found her papers from when she came to this country back in the late 30s). So, it is still celebrated by everyone on Dec. 24th. Every year the Cheapo SIL wants to have a birthday cake for my MIL-I personally would prefer not to-being a christian I would rather just celebrate the Christmas holiday and celebrate MILs birthday another day-but, whatever, i get outvoted every year on this.
So, every year, cheapo SIL gets a birthday cake for MIL which she proceeds to ask her brother (my husband) and her sister (we will call her other SIL) to chip in for. This bugs me to no end, because, first of all-why can't you pay for a birthday cake for your own mother?? Her and her husband are far from destitute and paying for a cake won't hurt them in the least. Besides the fact that no matter how many people I have here for Christmas, she always gets a small cake-just for show basically, and never takes into consideration the amount of people here who might want some. The cakes she buys are always from BJs (like Costco-big warehouse stores), so , they are cheap-I am talking $12 birthday cakes. I personally find it very tacky of her to go around at our Christmas party asking her brother and sister for $4 a piece to chip in for mom's cake. Now, you are probably thinking-well, she is their mother too, why shouldn't they pay for the cake also? That is a good point, I guess it just bugs me that it is always her idea to get the cake, she chooses where to get it-what kind to get, what size and all and then brings it here not caring about anyone else's opinion on it and then wants money for it. Can you tell I have issues with this woman? LOL
Which brings me to my real point of posting. So, this year, no exception, she again is bringing the birthday cake. Christmas, as you know, is this coming Monday. She bought the cake this past Friday! She said she went to BJs for something else and since she was there already, she got the cake! Hubby and I freaked out on her about getting a bakery cake over a week before time and how it was going to be cr-p-etc. etc. She claims she thought Christmas was this past Monday-but, her hubby told us on the sly that that wasn't true-she just didn't want to be bothered going back again just for a cake-so, bought it anyway.
After hubby and I said that it would be garbage sitting around for a week (she was whining that she couldn't bring it back because she had had it personalized already)-she then said she would put it in her freezer for a week and then bring it. Which we still didn't like and told her we thought it would be awful after being frozen-a bakery cake wasn't meant to be frozen like that-bla bla bla. It is not something we would do-we like our cakes fresh and always pick it up at the bakery that day-perhaps the day before. But, this is a woman who brought a 13 year old bottle of apple cider to her son's house for Thanksgiving! You should have seen what this looked like-ugh!
Anyway-after much back and forth and a not nice scene between hubby and SIL-SIL says she is bringing the cake anyway and that she would eat it and MIL would eat it and they wouldn't die. SIL also said that since we were so upset for "no reason", the cake would be her treat. We said fine-do whatever you like.
Today I get an email form her saying that she happened to be at BJs again and asked the bakery department about freezing the cake and they said it was fine-it is done all the time. That is all she said about it. Now, hubby feels that she will ask us and other SIL for money for the cake since BJs says it is good., I told hubby, just because BJs says it is ok doesn't mean we have to give her money, since our opinion is still that it will s--k!
So, again, I guess this sounds petty in a way-but, things like this go on all the time and there is tons of back story to this woman. So, if she goes back on it being her treat because BJs says it is fine to freeze and asks hubby for money-do we give it to her or not? I don't even know if she will ask or not-and, it is Christmas, I don't want a fight in the house, but, the whole thing irks me to no end....................
If you made it this far-thank you. If you think I am just being a whiney PITA about it all-that is fine too. Sometimes when it comes to hubby's family-I get nutso-LOL
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