LOL... okay WHAT?! I've never EVER heard of this! That a husband and wife's ring's metals have to match or someone would think you weren't married??!! WTF?! And how dare they say that to you!
I think generally I'd believe most people do get "matching" metals but would NEVER even think someone wasn't married to their spouse because the metals didn't match! That's insane!
I have allergies as well... I can wear pendants/bracelets etc. and I think even silver rings... but cannot wear ANYTHING but platinum in my ears or they get itchy and infected really quickly! Like in an hour or two. Learned that the hard way!!
I had a poorly made eternity band too and it constantly scratched the surface of my skin, which I think in turn made me exposed to the white gold - had contact dermititis for years before I changed rings. I think as long as my skin was "intact" I was okay with gold but not if it was itchy and rough, which it always was around that ring.
Sucks!! Can't wear cute silver or even gold earrings... I have some VCA and tolerate them but my ears hurt for days after.
Yes, bizarre, I know! I, too, was shocked that day. Especially when some random saleswoman approached me - quite angrily - in the middle of a department store while I held my 2 month old baby and started screaming at me in Spanish (which I don't speak). I had no idea
what she was saying or
why I was being yelled at until the saleswoman at the Dooney & Bourke handbag counter took pity on me and began translating.
Apparently, the woman saw me kiss my (then, now ex) husband. She also noticed that the baby was
obviously his but that our wedding rings looked nothing alike. His was a thick, wide 6mm white gold band with a .5ct princess cut diamond. The ring I was wearing was a simple 2mm yellow gold band. So, she assumed that I was the "other woman" and was screaming that I should come clean to his wife, that I shouldn't have brought a child into the affair, that it was women like me who ruined her own marriage... blah, blah, blah.
Little did I know at the time that my (then, now ex) husband was cheating on me with a married woman. They frequented many of the same places he and I shopped/dined/etc.. The old saleswoman had seen him with his mistress on several occasions and -- funniest part -- her wedding rings match my ex's because hers are a white gold diamond pave band and matching princess-cut diamond solitaire with halo...
So, the old woman (who has since been fired from this department store because of her altercation with me) mistakenly thought that
I was the cheating mistress when, in reality, it was him that was cheating and the "wife" was actually someone else's wife... and later became the woman he left me for... although she's still married to her own husband and my ex is still "the other man".
We learned all of this when I met with the sales woman, the Dooney & Bourke employee who translated, the store manager, the HR manager, etc. in the office of the Macy's after I filed a formal complaint that evening.
Ironic, isn't it? Apparently, a husband & wife are supposed to wear matching wedding bands... Who knew?! :lolots:
Anyway... all of that because I was allergic to my wedding ring.
I seem to have the most trouble with channel set bands, too! Or any band that has any type of opening on the inside of the band.
My jeweler told me that water/moisture/dirt can be trapped under the stones and come into contact with the skin through the openings on the inside of the band that allow light to pass through the stones. Hence the cleaning and soaking them in alcohol to "dry out" any trapped moisture. Didn't help at all.
So, then I tried a wide band that was entirely smooth inside with a brushed finish, and apparently the "brushed finish" allowed my skin to come into contact with nickel in the alloy and I developed a terrible rash on my finger that took two weeks after I stopped wearing the ring to go away...
I tried a Neil Lane bridal set in 14k white gold but, honestly, it was the most uncomfortable thing ever and I ended up with scratches from the diamond band and the engagement ring side stones. Not to mention I couldn't properly close my fingers while wearing the rings...
Finally, I ended up with a platinum princess cut solitaire to match my then-husband's white gold princess cut wedding band... and I never got to wear it because he left me two months before our 10th anniversary, and it was being saved for my anniversary present.
I won't even start on the white gold princess cut diamond studs I got for my birthday... Let's just say that I sold them on eBay because I was allergic to those, too...