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MAYIM BIALIK: I'M DONE BREASTFEEDING MY 4-YEAR-OLD SON FRED

Mayim Bialik has been breastfeeding her son Fred for the past four years, and now that time has come to an end. In a Feb. 6 blog post for Jewish parenting website Kveller, the recently single "Big Bang Theory" actress detailed how she finally weaned her little boy.

"Well, nay-sayers, prepare to be proven wrong. All of you snarky mamas who glared at me nursing my 3 1/2-year-old on the NYC subway, prepare to be amazed. And to all of my family and friends who wanted to chastise me about nursing a walking, talking, thinking, laughing little man named Fred, thanks for holding your tongues," Bialik, 37, wrote. "Because we did it. Fred isn't going to nurse on his way down the wedding aisle or at his high school graduation. I didn't need to break him of a 'habit' and teach him 'who's in charge.' I didn't need to set boundaries you thought I should have set when I didn't want to set them. Because we did it: Fred weaned."

Bialik -- also mom to 7-year-old son Miles with ex Michael Stone -- says it happened around Thanksgiving, "days before I released the public statement that I was getting divorced."

"From the time that Fred night-weaned a year ago, he was nursing about once a day, but not always once a day. Sometimes he'd go a few days without nursing. After night-weaning, he could nurse anywhere but in the bed, since it invariably made him think of nursing all night, which he did like a real champ for his entire happy milky life until he was 3. And I didn't want to go back to that!" the former "Blossom" star explains. "I nursed Fred four to six times a night for three years. I pumped at work for Fred from the time I got the job on 'The Big Bang Theory' when he was 18 months old until he was 3. ... I didn't nurse him literally anywhere, anytime, but I made sure to meet his needs and have mine satisfied as well."

Though she "had difficulty nursing both of my boys," Bialik believes it provided "the best nutrition, nurturing and bonding ever." Toward the end of her breastfeeding, Fred "typically nursed from both sides since I was prone to clogged ducts for most of our nursing relationship," the star explains.

"It wasn't until much more recently -- it's been three months now since he nursed -- that he asked to nurse. But now when he asks, he knows it's funny," the "Beyond the Sling" author says of Fred. "That he's a big boy. That he doesn't drink 'nummies' anymore."

The transition has been hard for Bialik, whose other TV credits include "The Secret Life of the American Teenager" and "Curb Your Enthusiasm." "I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss being able to latch him on and make it all better. We have other ways to soothe Fred now," she writes. "When he's very very upset or very very hurt, we lay on the couch where he nursed countless mornings, afternoons and evenings, and we rock and I sing to him his favorite lullabies. And he holds me tight, and I hold him tight, and I know that there was never ever ever anything wrong with nursing Fred."

A longtime proponent of "attachment parenting," Bialik knows her decision to breastfeed her son until age 4 is controversial. "Even when people laughed and sneered and accused me of horrible things no mother should ever be accused of when tending to the normal and beautiful needs of her mammal child," the actress writes. "It was never wrong and it was always right."

The vegan mother of two ended her blog post with a message for her youngest son: "Go out into the scary wonderful crazy broken world, sweet tender Fred. Take your fear and conquer it, and come back to me when it's too much for you. I may not have milk to give you, but I have a heart forever etched with your name, your face, your eyes, your impossibly stunning tapered lashes that hold the tears only you can cry. Thank you, Fred, for being my nursling."

http://wonderwall.msn.com/tv/mayim-bialik-im-done-breastfeeding-my-4-year-old-son-fred-1734211.story
 

Coco Belle

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She sounds like she loves the hell out of that boy!

I know people get all horrified and/or snarky about nursing a toddler/preschooler, but it is really not a big deal anywhere in the world except in the West. Even the World Health Organization says to breastfeed till at LEAST two years of age, and for as long as possible after that. She just did what most of the world does... nursed till the baby wasn't a baby anymore.

I say more power to her. I find breastfeeding a huge drag, particularly night feeding, so I take my hat off to her, I'm not sure I'll be able to do it much past two years of age! Maybe once a day.
 
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Yikes! I feel if a baby has teeth he/she doesn't need to be breastfed. It comes out in such small quantities I can't see how it would fulfill the hunger of a 4 year old anyways.
 
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Yikes! I feel if a baby has teeth he/she doesn't need to be breastfed. It comes out in such small quantities I can't see how it would fulfill the hunger of a 4 year old anyways.
Lol. Have you had a baby?
They get teeth at like 4-6months...you can't just stop feeding them then... they can't even chew yet. Kid would starve.

Extended bfeeding isn't to satisfy hunger, it's to quench thirst and get antibodies. They're eating solid food by then.
 
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Yikes! I feel if a baby has teeth he/she doesn't need to be breastfed. It comes out in such small quantities I can't see how it would fulfill the hunger of a 4 year old anyways.
It's not about satiating hunger at that age, it's about comfort. People let kids suck on a pacifier until age 4 so what's the difference. I nursed my dd until she was 2 1/2 and prob would have longer if I weren't preg with my second, who I'm still nursing at 18 mos. a lot of babies start getting teeth at 4 months so teeth really have nothing to do with it. It bothers me that BF after a year old is perceived as weird when it's a perfectly normal thing to do, not all kids are ready to wean at the same time and a lot of moms aren't ready either
 
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I think it's great to see all these posts supporting breast feeding children for longer periods of time. I don't have a child but if/when I do, I plan on breast feeding. For how long I don't know but it's great to know that more people are becoming accepting of it.
 
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Yikes! I feel if a baby has teeth he/she doesn't need to be breastfed. It comes out in such small quantities I can't see how it would fulfill the hunger of a 4 year old anyways.
OH really? So when my baby girl cut her bottom 2 teeth at 3 months I should've cut off the nursing? :rolleyes:

I could never nurse a 4 yr old. But with the REAL problems in the world right now, I also can't judge too hard a mama who is doing it. I mean really? This isn't our problems.
People need to stop worrying about what other moms are doing unless it's hurting people. We all do what's best for US.
 

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I couldn't care less how old Fred was when he was weaned but waking up 4-6 times EVERY. SINGLE. NIGHT. for 3 years straight to nurse him?? I couldn't do that.
ITA. My son is 6mo and I get up at least twice per night to nurse him... 11pm, 3am, usually 5am too... that is bad enough and I am PRAYING for it to end. Three years would KILL ME.