Madonna

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In bed with Madonna: Warren Beatty found her crude, Guy Ritchie called her needy, Sean Penn went to jail for her... a new book navigates the choppy waters of Madonna’s turbulent love life

With the arrogance and mischief for which she would very soon be famous, Madonna had a game she liked to play in the spring of 1983, just as her career was beginning to heat up. In the company of her backing dancer Erika Belle, she would go to the Mudd Club, the centre of New York nightlife at the bottom of Manhattan, and terrorise attractive men. ‘Rika,’ she’d announce to her friend, ‘I’m the best-looking white girl here and you are the best-looking black girl, so let’s do it.’ They’d target cute boys, boldly kiss them on the mouth, take their phone numbers and, while the hopeful young men were still watching, crumple up the numbers and throw them away.

As she approaches 60, it’s clear that Madonna’s life and career amount to far more than a list of the men she loved and left, or occasionally lost. But then again, few women have had such a remarkable talent for making men – and women – fall in love with them, or had such a good time doing it.

Madonna’s romantic history features actors, pop stars, models, producers, sporting icons, film directors, sons of presidents. But like those deluded boys on the dancefloor, most of them haven’t managed to slow her down for long. As an early boyfriend, the DJ Mark Kamins, put it: ‘She wasn’t difficult to be around – she just didn’t stick around.’

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Popular, sexually curious and never short of boyfriends in her teenage years in Detroit, Madonna lost her virginity at the age of 15 with high school heart-throb Russell Long, before shifting her attention to school football player Nick Twomey – now a pastor in Traverse City, Michigan. Her outward persona was the alpha-female big mouth, but Madonna has protested that she was never promiscuous and only slept with her steady boyfriends.

In the summer of 1978, Madonna arrived in New York, but it was to be four years before she got her first record deal, let alone the kind of fame she desired. In the meantime, she suffered a trauma that very nearly broke her spirit, and quite possibly shaped her sexuality from that day on.

In a run-down part of town near the dance studio she attended, she was grabbed on the street by a thick-set black man who led her at knifepoint up the steps of a tenement block to the roof. There, he forced her to perform oral sex before leaving her crying and shaking on the rooftop. Back at her tiny apartment, she thought about going back to Michigan. But she stuck it out, burying deep her sense of shame and isolation and pushing onward. It might be argued that her anger at the attack came out afterwards in a need for complete sexual control. Many friends have suggested that she used sex in those days to get attention, a meal, a bed for the night. As a woman who felt powerless, it was one way to show men that she was the dominant one.

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In New York she rekindled a romance with Stephen Bray, a musician she’d met while studying dance at the University of Michigan. He was a key collaborator on some of her first recordings, and he realised early on that being Madonna’s boyfriend was a difficult job. ‘Some people are very upfront and some are like “You’ll find out eventually you’re not my boyfriend and that I’m seeing 12 other people.” That was more her approach,’ he said. ‘I learned... not to count on her in that area.’

When Madonna persuaded Kamins to play her homemade demo tape, she quickly became his girlfriend, and they moved into a small flat on the Upper East Side. ‘We had no money and we were sleeping on milk crates,’ he remembered. ‘She wasn’t a home-maker. There was only one thing on her mind. I bought some lingerie for her one night and she wasn’t interested. To Madonna, a boyfriend was secondary. She knew how to use her sexuality to manipulate men – everyone from promotion guys to radio programmers.’

By the time her first single Everybody was setting New York alight in 1982, Madonna was the lover of a young, up-and-coming black artist, Jean-Michel Basquiat. Her disciplined lifestyle contrasted with his penchant for getting stoned and sleeping till the afternoon.

According to Basquiat’s assistant, Steve Torton, Madonna bailed out because Basquiat ‘never saw the sun. She said she couldn’t take it. I saw her and I said, “How’s Jean?” and she said, “He’s on dope. I went over there tonight and he was nodding out on heroin. I’m not having anything to do with that.” She moved out, just like that, totally emotionless.’

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Soon, Madonna moved into a spacious apartment with John ‘Jellybean’ Benitez, producer of her early hit Holiday, in New York’s SoHo. ‘She was my girl,’ he said. ‘We spent hundreds of hours necking in the studio between takes,’ he recalled. ‘We had a very open relationship. It was part of my lifestyle, her lifestyle.’

When it finally arrived, stardom came fast, propelled by hits including Lucky Star, Borderline and Like A Virgin. Her relationship with Benitez lasted two years, but it was falling apart when she found herself pregnant with his child. She decided not to keep the baby, but it was an agonising decision for her. That was the moment she met hot-headed actor Sean Penn on the set of the Marilyn Monroe-inspired video for her single Material Girl. He became her protector, and a jealous, domineering force.

‘It wasn’t passionate love at first sight in the beginning, but it slowly became that for both of them,’ said Penn’s friend, the film director James Foley. ‘Suddenly they were madly in love and inseparable and couldn’t wait to get married. She became the entire centre of Sean’s life.’

On her wedding day, in the grounds of a clifftop house at Point Dume, Malibu, in front of guests including Cher, Carrie Fisher and Andy Warhol, Madonna wore white taffeta and a bowler hat. In their determination to get a shot, photographers disrupted the ceremony by hovering over the site in helicopters. ‘Madonna was going ballistic, giving [the paparazzi] the finger, while Sean was running in the house for his shotgun,’ recalled Bill Meyers, the keyboardist in Madonna’s band.

From the moment they got engaged, Madonna and Penn found themselves number-one fodder for tabloid stories. In 1986, while they were filming Shanghai Surprise, Penn was arrested after hanging an intruding photographer by his ankles from the balcony of their ninth-floor hotel room. He broke out of jail and escaped the city by jetfoil. In 1987, while Madonna was on her Who’s That Girl tour, he served 33 days of a 60-day sentence in the Los Angeles County Jail after assaulting an extra, while on probation for punching songwriter David Wolinski, who had kissed Madonna on the cheek.
 
In December 1987, Madonna filed for divorce and, while estranged from Penn, had a three-month dalliance with John F Kennedy Jr, though her efforts to meet John-John’s mother, the glacial Jackie Onassis, were rebuffed. The affair soon cooled, not just because of Jackie O’s hostility. Madonna was less than impressed with John-John’s love-making technique. ‘It’s like going to bed with a nine-year-old,’ she said.

She returned to Penn, but by the end of 1988 he had reached a point of psychological crisis. On December 29, he allegedly held Madonna prisoner in their Malibu home – some claim he pinned her down and sat on her for hours. In January 1989, Madonna filed for divorce, and this time her decision was final.

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Soon after, she accepted an invitation from 52-year-old Hollywood lothario Warren Beatty to discuss the part of Breathless Mahoney in his new film Dick Tracy. The complete opposite of Penn, Beatty was poised, subtle and assured. He was an old-school movie actor, as smooth and perfumed as the air in the Hollywood Hills. And he was delighted that Madonna was interested in him. Critics have suggested that their affair was a publicity stunt for the movie, but while it created a great deal of press interest, there was also genuine affection between them.

However, 1991’s candid documentary film In Bed With Madonna, filmed in the dying days of their affair, couldn’t disguise the fact that Beatty was growing tired of his younger lover. He didn’t appreciate her crude roadie-like humour and the way she bossed him around. The constant, intrusive camera was, for him, a step too far.

Madonna’s risqué 1992 coffee-table book Sex featured photographs taken with another famous boyfriend, the rapper Vanilla Ice, who complained afterwards that he had no idea the pictures would end up being published. The two had begun dating after she went to a concert of his in the early Nineties. ‘It was fun,’ he said, ‘she was a sweetheart.’ But after the book came out he refused to speak to her.

Madonna’s affair with cross-dressing basketball player Dennis Rodman became one of her biggest regrets. At first, Madonna appreciated the flamboyant Rodman’s style. According to the indiscreet Rodman, Madonna hounded him for months, viewing him as a perfect physical specimen and a potential husband and father. But she was hurt when Rodman gossiped about her in his book, while remarking in private that she wasn’t that great in bed.

Now in her mid-30s, Madonna was anxious to have children. In an elusive search for Mr Right, she had brief relationships with various unlikely men – including rapper Tupac Shakur, the year before he was killed in a drive-by shooting.

It was in the summer of 1994 that Madonna met a more promising partner, Cuban-American fitness trainer Carlos Leon. She’d noticed him jogging in Central Park and arranged an introduction via her assistant. The affair grew slowly, away from the limelight. She enjoyed meeting his parents, a hardworking couple living in a modest 91st Street apartment. For a while she could make-believe this was just a normal relationship.

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But Leon had a hint of Latin machismo in his temperament. She found him possessive and jealous, and he didn’t relish playing second fiddle to Madonna the star. While filming Evita she discovered she was pregnant with Leon’s baby, Lourdes (Lola), born on October 14, 1996. Soon after the birth, their relationship foundered, fuelling rumours that Leon had been a mere sperm donor.

Then, just a few months after the release of her triumphant 1998 album Ray Of Light, Madonna met Guy Ritchie at a summer party at Sting’s house in Wiltshire. In Ritchie she found someone very like herself: driven, determined and, as a laddish film director with a privileged upbringing, adept at reinvention.

Ritchie was still dating model Tania Strecker, and would meet Madonna in secret, sharing passionate trysts in a tiny flat in Soho’s Wardour Street. By the beginning of 2000 she found herself pregnant with son Rocco. The pair married at Skibo Castle in Scotland at the end of that year.

For a time, it seemed like Madonna had finally met her true match. But in spite of Rocco and their adopted son David, the relationship gradually unravelled. Madonna was ‘needy’, Guy wasn’t interested in Kabbalah, and he was critical of her, reportedly saying that onstage she ‘looked like a granny’ compared to her nubile backing dancers. The divorce battle, which concluded in November 2008, was brief but brutal.

Her first serious romance after Ritchie was with Brazilian model and DJ Jesus Luz, who was 22 when they met on a photo-shoot in December 2008. They split in 2010, and Madonna was soon in the arms of a dancer called Brahim Zaibat. That lasted three years, in defiance of a 30-year age gap. Since then she is rumoured to have dated dancer Timor Steffens and model Aboubakar Soumahoro, both in their 20s, and in June last year she was linked to early-30-something Kevin Sampaio, a Portuguese model. Madonna enjoys the companionship of the young, good-looking and carefree – life is complicated enough with six children and a career, so why not? And it’s this love and passion that continues to fuel her music.

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In December 1987, Madonna filed for divorce and, while estranged from Penn, had a three-month dalliance with John F Kennedy Jr, though her efforts to meet John-John’s mother, the glacial Jackie Onassis, were rebuffed. The affair soon cooled, not just because of Jackie O’s hostility. Madonna was less than impressed with John-John’s love-making technique. ‘It’s like going to bed with a nine-year-old,’ she said.

She returned to Penn, but by the end of 1988 he had reached a point of psychological crisis. On December 29, he allegedly held Madonna prisoner in their Malibu home – some claim he pinned her down and sat on her for hours. In January 1989, Madonna filed for divorce, and this time her decision was final.

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Soon after, she accepted an invitation from 52-year-old Hollywood lothario Warren Beatty to discuss the part of Breathless Mahoney in his new film Dick Tracy. The complete opposite of Penn, Beatty was poised, subtle and assured. He was an old-school movie actor, as smooth and perfumed as the air in the Hollywood Hills. And he was delighted that Madonna was interested in him. Critics have suggested that their affair was a publicity stunt for the movie, but while it created a great deal of press interest, there was also genuine affection between them.

However, 1991’s candid documentary film In Bed With Madonna, filmed in the dying days of their affair, couldn’t disguise the fact that Beatty was growing tired of his younger lover. He didn’t appreciate her crude roadie-like humour and the way she bossed him around. The constant, intrusive camera was, for him, a step too far.

Madonna’s risqué 1992 coffee-table book Sex featured photographs taken with another famous boyfriend, the rapper Vanilla Ice, who complained afterwards that he had no idea the pictures would end up being published. The two had begun dating after she went to a concert of his in the early Nineties. ‘It was fun,’ he said, ‘she was a sweetheart.’ But after the book came out he refused to speak to her.

Madonna’s affair with cross-dressing basketball player Dennis Rodman became one of her biggest regrets. At first, Madonna appreciated the flamboyant Rodman’s style. According to the indiscreet Rodman, Madonna hounded him for months, viewing him as a perfect physical specimen and a potential husband and father. But she was hurt when Rodman gossiped about her in his book, while remarking in private that she wasn’t that great in bed.

Now in her mid-30s, Madonna was anxious to have children. In an elusive search for Mr Right, she had brief relationships with various unlikely men – including rapper Tupac Shakur, the year before he was killed in a drive-by shooting.

It was in the summer of 1994 that Madonna met a more promising partner, Cuban-American fitness trainer Carlos Leon. She’d noticed him jogging in Central Park and arranged an introduction via her assistant. The affair grew slowly, away from the limelight. She enjoyed meeting his parents, a hardworking couple living in a modest 91st Street apartment. For a while she could make-believe this was just a normal relationship.

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But Leon had a hint of Latin machismo in his temperament. She found him possessive and jealous, and he didn’t relish playing second fiddle to Madonna the star. While filming Evita she discovered she was pregnant with Leon’s baby, Lourdes (Lola), born on October 14, 1996. Soon after the birth, their relationship foundered, fuelling rumours that Leon had been a mere sperm donor.

Then, just a few months after the release of her triumphant 1998 album Ray Of Light, Madonna met Guy Ritchie at a summer party at Sting’s house in Wiltshire. In Ritchie she found someone very like herself: driven, determined and, as a laddish film director with a privileged upbringing, adept at reinvention.

Ritchie was still dating model Tania Strecker, and would meet Madonna in secret, sharing passionate trysts in a tiny flat in Soho’s Wardour Street. By the beginning of 2000 she found herself pregnant with son Rocco. The pair married at Skibo Castle in Scotland at the end of that year.

For a time, it seemed like Madonna had finally met her true match. But in spite of Rocco and their adopted son David, the relationship gradually unravelled. Madonna was ‘needy’, Guy wasn’t interested in Kabbalah, and he was critical of her, reportedly saying that onstage she ‘looked like a granny’ compared to her nubile backing dancers. The divorce battle, which concluded in November 2008, was brief but brutal.

Her first serious romance after Ritchie was with Brazilian model and DJ Jesus Luz, who was 22 when they met on a photo-shoot in December 2008. They split in 2010, and Madonna was soon in the arms of a dancer called Brahim Zaibat. That lasted three years, in defiance of a 30-year age gap. Since then she is rumoured to have dated dancer Timor Steffens and model Aboubakar Soumahoro, both in their 20s, and in June last year she was linked to early-30-something Kevin Sampaio, a Portuguese model. Madonna enjoys the companionship of the young, good-looking and carefree – life is complicated enough with six children and a career, so why not? And it’s this love and passion that continues to fuel her music.

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I'm with Warren Beatty - she's crude :smile:
 
It could be worse. It looks like the fillers have settled a bit.

Did anyone see the story in the New York Times about her cultural influence? Just my opinion: it's a sad commentary for women in the US when Madonna is the apex of modern femininity.

I like her as a singer and her fashion, but come on! Ok, rant over.
 
Settled? Zoom in on the pic where she’s about to hug the girl in the blue dress.

Yep. What I’m seeing are cheek implants with filler to soften the edges. It’s funny when people do this- then you side by side photos of them when they were 25 and now (in her case 59) and lookie, more “volume” at age 59. Ha!!!