looking inward


Sep 15, 2007
Do you ever feel guilty about buying hermes? The bags are undeniably expensive and I think we all have experienced what an obsession it can become. Do your friends or husbands ever get annoyed with your shallow obsessing? Do you ever have buyers remorse? discuss:


Pay it Forward
Jun 15, 2006
No....but then I only shallowly obsess with my tPF pals! I don't fell the least bit guilty about buying anything (Hermes of not) or returning anything if am not completely satisfied.


Bolduc Ribbon Girl
Apr 30, 2007
favorhermes, I don't have a husband, and that wouldn't matter because I'm saving for my first (and hopefully not last) H bag with my own money. ;) Because I'm reading all about leathers and colors, I won't be having any buyers remorse. That's why it's important to not settle-for. Buy your dream bag. :smile:


Resistance is Futile
Apr 8, 2006
No remorse for me.....I've purchase every piece with my own money and all after I've taken care of everyone else first. Life is short and time flies.....I've been a nuturing and compassionate mother (and that never stops), a caring and loving SO, a dutiful daughter. Time for me now.....no regrets or remorse.


May 3, 2007
Lonesome Dove
Yes, if I really think about it, what I pay for H bags gives me pause.....but like the ladies above, it's something I do for me only, I've paid a few dues in life that were hard, and if a couple of expensive bags makes me feel better, so be it. For God's sake, I had to give up tanning, smoking, carousing and everything else...leave me the Hermes.


Mar 10, 2007
Sunny, tropical Ohio
Yes, which is precisely why I haven't purchased one as yet. Then again, I am the world's worst saver. If I just could just cut & use coupons, cut back my starbucks, makeup shopping (another "hobby"), and other small costs that add up, I would probably be able to have the cash for a bag in a year or less. It's also hard when I think of how much therapy an H bag would give my son with autism. Still, I dream of my own Kelly someday...



Aug 21, 2006
Do you ever feel guilty about buying hermes? The bags are undeniably expensive and I think we all have experienced what an obsession it can become. Do your friends or husbands ever get annoyed with your shallow obsessing? Do you ever have buyers remorse? discuss:

Actually, I don't flaunt my handbags to my friends IRL. I go about carrying them under the radar. I don't shallow obsess with my friends IRL about my handbags either and lastly I don't have buyers remorse. So I guess that sums it all up to no I don't feel guilty at all because I have earned it so my DH says!!:heart:

Encore Hermes

Aug 6, 2007
villa di como
The bags are expensive but I don't feel guilty making a bag purchase because of their longevity. With reasonable care they last decades. I do feel some guilt with a couple of the bags I purchased when I was younger and I didn't treat them as well as I do now (what spa?, scratched hardware, corners really rubbed).
My husband got annoyed when I asked him to take off his wedding band and rub the box kelly:rolleyes: because he has more oil on his skin and I'm trying to hasten the patina.


Sep 15, 2007
Well none of my friends know my new bag is H.... and my SO thinks I'm crazy.... and he hates tPF... sometimes I feel like I don't really deserve to carry H, but it's just such an amazing brand :love:

which H bag do you have? I like how many of their bags are unrecognizable.

Kelly Kelly

Aug 26, 2007
I don't feel guilty about saving for and buying anything from Hermes but I do feel very lucky that I can occasionally buy something for myself or my mother or sisters. I feel lucky because, like haute couture (which I can't afford) there are so few things that are handmade with the kind of craftsmanship that Hermes has. I really feel quilty about all the stuff that I have bought that ends up in my garage or in the trash after one or two uses or times in the washing machine that I really didn't need or want anyway. Hermes has actually helped me cut down on all that kind of shopping. :flowers:

Haute Couturess

Black CDC Kelly pls!
Feb 26, 2007
a year ago i would have said no but this year i bought more than a few exotics and i am starting to feel not guilt for buying what i love but a little bit of guilt for shelling out so much cash. there's no question in my mind that i deserve every one of them...but there are other things i could have spent the $ on or put it into investments. i know it's its own investment in a way and that i get lots of use out of them, i use them every day literally sometimes two or three in a day, but still, the total when added up is staggering. in the same breath if i had to give up more than one or two of them i'd probably turn into the wicked witch of the east LOL. luckily nobody feeds into my guilt. i do it all on my own. stay tuned...no action planned so far except this coming year will likely be less extravagant. no stockpiling.
Mar 19, 2007
LaLa Land
I feel guilty every time I look at my bag. Thinking about people who can't feed their families, or sick people who can't afford healthcare, I wonder what gives me the right to own such an expensive bag. Many of my girlfriends who come from wealthy families or make more $$$ than I do, don't yet own a birkin.

Yet, I feel eerily happy when I stroll the premier department stores and boutiques, or just having lunch around town. I like how they're instantly recognizable at all the upscale places, and remain anonymous rest of the places.