Thank you all for your advice. I'm still just very torn on what to do. I once sold one of my favorite Kelly bags because it wasn't being used. That was 8 years ago and I still regret it.
My SO is extremely frugal even though he makes great money. Very early on in dating I told him the value of one of my bags, but I don't think he was paying much attention. He knows what an Hermes GM Cashmere costs and says that he doesn't plan on purchasing them for me. He somehow thinks my bags cost around $600 and he teases me about that being too much. He has never told me to get rid of anything, but he has encouraged me to go to Target and buy some cheap plastic purses. His knows who I am and doesn't try to change me, but he doesn't like to see me uncomfortable when we are out. Our nice dinners are prone to turning into evenings with friends and somehow wine and beer ends up all over the place. I have never met such an enthusiastic bunch of toasters! I end up very awkwardly trying to cover and hide my bag instead of enjoying the night out. He has caught on to my fears so now he insists that I ditch my bags altogether an just bring a cheap clutch or noname crossbody. I honestly have a wonderful time with my SO and our rambunctious friends and wouldn't trade those experiences for a chance to wear my cashmeres or a nicer bag.
The SO and I have been talking about weddings, buying a house together, and kids. We're speaking about finances and the future a lot. I guess that is what has made me want to do all that I can to put myself in the best place to contribute since he makes more than I do right now. He hasn't proposed yet, but I think he has made me evaluate my priorities.
Maybe a large part of the problem is that I'm working mostly from home at the moment so I don't have a lot of other places to use my nice things? I'm hoping to make a job change soon and maybe that will allow me to dress up more often. I wore an Hermes belt to dinner with SO and friends last night and it made me feel good. I just need to make a point of doing these small things so that I can enjoy my collection.
My SO is extremely frugal even though he makes great money. Very early on in dating I told him the value of one of my bags, but I don't think he was paying much attention. He knows what an Hermes GM Cashmere costs and says that he doesn't plan on purchasing them for me. He somehow thinks my bags cost around $600 and he teases me about that being too much. He has never told me to get rid of anything, but he has encouraged me to go to Target and buy some cheap plastic purses. His knows who I am and doesn't try to change me, but he doesn't like to see me uncomfortable when we are out. Our nice dinners are prone to turning into evenings with friends and somehow wine and beer ends up all over the place. I have never met such an enthusiastic bunch of toasters! I end up very awkwardly trying to cover and hide my bag instead of enjoying the night out. He has caught on to my fears so now he insists that I ditch my bags altogether an just bring a cheap clutch or noname crossbody. I honestly have a wonderful time with my SO and our rambunctious friends and wouldn't trade those experiences for a chance to wear my cashmeres or a nicer bag.
The SO and I have been talking about weddings, buying a house together, and kids. We're speaking about finances and the future a lot. I guess that is what has made me want to do all that I can to put myself in the best place to contribute since he makes more than I do right now. He hasn't proposed yet, but I think he has made me evaluate my priorities.
Maybe a large part of the problem is that I'm working mostly from home at the moment so I don't have a lot of other places to use my nice things? I'm hoping to make a job change soon and maybe that will allow me to dress up more often. I wore an Hermes belt to dinner with SO and friends last night and it made me feel good. I just need to make a point of doing these small things so that I can enjoy my collection.