Jewelry Copy Cats

[AntiqueShopper]

I have a friend who loves to copy my jewelry. Whenever I buy a new piece, she goes out and buys the same piece as well. At first I felt flattered, but now it is annoying me. (This has happened with at least ten pieces of jewelry.) Should I feel flattered or annoyed?

 

[Kitsunegrl]

If it is mass produced piece like Tiffany's or Cartier, then it doesn't bother me.

However if I had a one of a kind piece from a local jeweler and someone copied the design it would bother me.

 

[amina.pink]

I have a friend who likes to copy me also. Not just on jewellery, but many other things. It is very annoying, but you just have to breeeathe through it and rise above it!

Like you mentioned, it is a form of flattery and just think: you own and bought these pieces because you admired them, researched them, loved them and purchased them with due thought and consideration. You have to question whether she must even like the things she is buying if she is simply taking clues from you. Besides, what suits you may not suit her and so on. It's actually kind of sad to me when you think about it because she doesn't even have enough confidence in her own taste and style.

 

[Hekate]

I'm usually pretty laid back ... but regardless of whether it was custom or not, I think I'd be kind of irritated if I didn't get to enjoy my new whatever-it-was for so much as a minute before my friend was showing hers off, too! I think I'd be equal parts annoyed and sorry for her, frankly ... who has so little originality that they only buy what their friend already has?

 

[AntiqueShopper]

If it is mass produced piece like Tiffany's or Cartier, then it doesn't bother me.

However if I had a one of a kind piece from a local jeweler and someone copied the design it would bother me.

Most of the pieces are mass produced. However, the pieces I chose were pieces she normally would not wear. For example, I bought a piece with a heart. She hates hearts; however, she bought the piece right after me. Her pattern is to say she dislikes something, I buy it because I love it, and she now loves it. When I buy a piece of jewelry, I buy it because I love it. She, however, seems to buy just to buy.

 

[Candice0985]

It's definitely a form of flattery, but I can understand where you're coming from. maybe you could bring it up, say its kind of ironic that when you buy a piece she buys the same on right after....maybe she'll get the hint?

 

[sbelle]

I know I would be a bit annoyed, but would eventually convince myself that I have bigger problems and would ignore it.

 

[Bentley1]

I have 1 friend who is this way and it drives me batty. Not just because she copies, but because it feels like she is competing and she will try and go buy the item ASAP in order to not fall behind me.

She says she feels intimidated when her friends have better, newer things than she does so she has to keep up. It's one thing to keep up, its entirely different thing to continue to purchase the EXACT same items.

The first few times it didn't bug me, but even my bf has become annoyed and feels she is like the character from Single White Female. Soon as I get something new, she says omg, I have to have it. Next thing you know, she has it. Which is really bad because we hang out in the same social circle so we either end up having the same items on (purses, jewelry, shoes) or I have to double check with her so we don't continue to show up with the same accessories. SO annoying.

 

[Brina_ca]

Don't tell her what you bought :ninja::ninja:

 

[midorichan]

Both, I suppose. My friend and I do it to each other, but it doesnt bother me because we are close. We usually buy opposite colors too. Also, I help her find deals, otherwise, she'd always pay retail. We enable each other. I may not be okay with it if the person is trying to be my doppelganger though.

 

[dialv]

I think I would be annoyed. After ten pieces I would be thinking get your own unique style but I would probably be too much of a wuss to say something. My now husband after 10 years proposed, I got my beautiful engagement ring and than friends of ours who are always taking about splitting up came over(like a week later after she saw my ring) and she had on a big cubic zirconia engagement ring to out do mine. I was like wtf ( in my head of coarse).

 

[saligator]

Buy something you totally HATE. (Don't spend a lot of money on it--or tell your local jeweler the problem and ask if you can buy/borrow something you hate and can return just to throw her off the trail) Then, RETURN IT.

Or, tell her (over the phone) that you are ordering the "piece name here" by "jeweler name here" and that you are upset because your size will take months and then laugh as she flaunts the thing you didn't want and never ordered.

Or not. Maybe my suggestions are too mean.

You could also -- and this will take some time, try to work with her to help her develop her own personal style. Fashion magazine and books always have those "what jewelry type" are you? quizzes. Make her take them first!

Good luck!

 

[jba10]

well i have a friend who is similar to this....but this friend buys jewelry or bags that is bigger or much expensive than what i bought just to be ahead of me.....like when i bought a gold charm bracelet well she bought a gold bracelet also but more expensive and thicker than mine. then i bought an lv bag, she bought also bought one. now i bought a diamond ring she stil doesnt know and have not shown her......hehehe.....i expect she will buy one also but probably bigger or more carats than mine.....
tha solution dont mind her coz she's a copycat.
btw, i will do a reveal of the ring once i get a picture of it.

 

[surfergirljen]

I guess flattered if you think she's copying you because you have great STYLE... but really annoyed if she's doing it to compete or keep up with you.

Nothing makes me more stressed than friends who have to constantly one-up you! I have a friend who does that and lists where she got everything in her house, how she hired a designer to decorate it and everything is imported and blah blah blah... and I don't even like it! She'll drop $1000 on ugly candle sticks from some IMPORTANT designer and expect me to be impressed... or get diamond earrings for her b-day and immediately tell me how much they were, their stats, etc etc... She just doesn't get it.

Could you ask her not to get EVERYTHING you get? Would you ever tell her it makes you uncomfortable?

 

[darkangel07760]

I have a friend who loves to copy my jewelry. Whenever I buy a new piece, she goes out and buys the same piece as well. At first I felt flattered, but now it is annoying me. (This has happened with at least ten pieces of jewelry.) Should I feel flattered or annoyed?

That is a little odd. If she outright admits that she loves your taste in jewelry, then at least she is being honest. But if she is denying that she is doing this, that would concern me.