In the other thread some people said that the seller might be doing her best, regardless of whether or not the OP thought that was good enough. Now the OP knows that she herself is doing her best as a seller, and she's upset because her buyer doesn't think that's good enough.
I don't think it's out of line to point out that oftentimes expectations for what a buyer's and seller's responsibilities are don't match up, and it's usually best to give someone the benefit of the doubt - as was the case with the seller in the last thread, and as is the case with the OP-as-seller in this thread.
I agree. It is not out of line at all to point out that expectations might not match up. And I am all for giving the benefit of the doubt. And all of this can be done in a helpful manner without jumping down sometimes throat.
And as an aside, I am solidly behind the OP in her first thread for being concerned that she had sent $1700 to a seller and had heard nothing and then false promises about a tracking number. If it was $17 or even $170 that would have been o.k. but not $1700. No matter how much the buyer is protected, it is reasonable to be concerned. But here I am rehashing the old thread which we are all trying (obviously unsuccessfully) not to do.
IMO, these two situations are apples and oranges and I think trying to link them to put the OP in her place is very unfair.