Is it normal to feel a little nauseous when purchasing an expensive bag?

MSV0

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Yes. But not for taking that money away from myself or my family. We own a home, have adequate retirement savings and college savings for our kids. If anything were to happen to our jobs or prevent us from working, we’d be able to get through at least a year and be ok. I didn’t buy my first designer bag until all of the above was checked off. I was 30.

My guilt is because that money - and let’s face it, the cost of a Chanel bag is more than a yearly salary for some people in some countries - could have gone to charity or helping others in some way. We do give ample amounts to charity too, and the fact that I have two Chanel bags that just crossed their 10 year anniversary makes me quiet the guilt a bit. I’m still trying to find my own balance personally. I love the quality of these very expensive, designer bags, and I’ve told myself they will last me forever and be passed down I. My family. I don’t sell anything. I also love the brand name and the fact that I’m investing in a historic fashion house. I’m really not sure if it’s the “right” thing to do as my moral conscience still struggle with it.
We buy these bags because it makes us feel special.
I do struggle with the sin aspect like we are not suppose to have material possessions and giving to charity is always better.

Think about quality vs quantity in your situation. If the bag has lasted 10 years than that is maybe $200-$400 a year and you still have something special and may have some value in it if you did want to sell it. I just picked up a target bag that sat in a closet for a year and it fell apart so I threw it out. What I have learned is that if you stop buying a bunch of cheap junk, wait and do "without" for awhile until you save up for something better quality it pays off in the long run.
 

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We buy these bags because it makes us feel special.
I do struggle with the sin aspect like we are not suppose to have material possessions and giving to charity is always better.

Think about quality vs quantity in your situation. If the bag has lasted 10 years than that is maybe $200-$400 a year and you still have something special and may have some value in it if you did want to sell it. I just picked up a target bag that sat in a closet for a year and it fell apart so I threw it out. What I have learned is that if you stop buying a bunch of cheap junk, wait and do "without" for awhile until you save up for something better quality it pays off in the long run.
Target bags are such a money pit! I climbed out of that pit in my 20s after probably my fifth Target bag fell apart—usually the strap and anything faux leather starts cracking/wearing down from use within 8 months. Same goes for most fast fashion (e.g., Target, H&M, etc.) and made-for-outlet bags. The leather sags after 1 year even if it's properly stored and you're left wondering, "What did I really pay for?" Sometimes outlets may have retail/boutique styles but I feel those occasions have become rarer these days unless you know each brand's tells.
 
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I'm not the target demographic of this question, because I haven't actual bought Chanel.

But, this is the reason I don't buy luxury handbags. Ultimately, I just can't stomach the price. Yes, we can afford it. Yes, they're pretty. Yes, I feel the urge to buy every time I see one. But, I just can't wrap my head around a $2000+ bag when that is close to a mortgage payment or rent.

I think on the PurseForum, you do find a lot of enablers who push you to ignore that feeling and just buy the bag. (This was discussed in the Money Talks forum - https://forum.purseblog.com/threads/what-is-your-age-and-how-much-do-you-have-saved-and-where.389298).

Honestly, if it makes you physically sick, maybe you should rethink the purchase?
I"m thankful I bought so many bags before this whole world of high end handbags really went crazy! I have many classic pieces I paid FRACTIONS of current pricing for, yeah they aren't the brand new this or that, but I have great staples from LV, Chanel, Hermes, Bottega, some classic flaps that cost me $1000 or less not $5-$8000, I don't know about everyone, but it's doubtful the majority of us have salaries 8 times higher than what they were 10-15 years ago, I know if I if I did I'd be making over 700K a year lol.. Companies have increased prices to "cater" to those of more elite status' where price is not object, but they also have not changed their products for the better which I find pretty well, crappy... and then I know people making modest middle class salaries who are STILL trying to keep up. I guess having the perspective of what I used to pay for bags that I still love to use, vs the incredible increases currently, has me opting out of the crazy. I will however partake in SLG's, sales, fragrance, stuff like that. I can wrap my head around a card case costing $350-$400 that I'll use everyday and know that 10 years ago they were $250-$300 a modest increase even though yes you can get a card case for $20 or less that has the same function.. but something like a classic flap that used to be in the $2000 range now what over $6000 or more (I don't even bother looking anymore) is just absurd. There's no end in site, for whatever reason people are still eating this stuff up, feeding into OMG another price increase have to run out and buy again, etc, etc.. well I'm out of this game. If my business becomes much more successful moving forward I MAY partake in a Birkin or Kelly in my lifetime, but it's certainly not a priority. I'm happy to use and appreciate what I have, it's also more friendly to the environment when you think about it too, consumerism contributes to carbon footprints also...
 

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I usually feel guilty after the initial adrenaline rush. I love something luxurious and new. THEN...... I think about my children's tuition, car insurance, groceries, etc.... and the fact that I only work part time and my husband is the breadwinner. So yes, I get a great high and then I feel guilty as hell...... Not sure why I keep doing this.
You sound like me. I absolutely love luxury things but I also think at the end of the day it’s ‘just’ a bag. I’m trying to be more mindful and minimal of luxury purchases, though it’s very hard
 

MSV0

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Target bags are such a money pit! I climbed out of that pit in my 20s after probably my fifth Target bag fell apart—usually the strap and anything faux leather starts cracking/wearing down from use within 8 months. Same goes for most fast fashion (e.g., Target, H&M, etc.) and made-for-outlet bags. The leather sags after 1 year even if it's properly stored and you're left wondering, "What did I really pay for?" Sometimes outlets may have retail/boutique styles but I feel those occasions have become rarer these days unless you know each brand's tells.
I feel like in general they make so much low quality items now days. My parents blender lasted 50 years from the wedding gifts. You maybe had 2 or 3 to choose from. My new Ninja Blender broke after 1 year. The products are horrible and because you want something nice that last longer than a year I think is smart and not part of consumerism.
 
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Glad I'm not alone having this feeling!!!!
Due to the crazy price increasing each year have contributed to me feeling more stressed upon payment. It has happened (not once but twice!) that I have removed my card from the cardmachine and walked out saying "I need to think about it" due to its high price.. :whut:
 

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Great thread for me to read as I do research to buy my first luxury bag, a Chanel. I get nauseous whenever I make a huge purchase. I was sick when I signed the loan paperwork for my first car which was pre-owned. Years later, I almost passed out when I signed the mortgage paperwork for my house. I expect it will be the same when I fork over the money for my first Chanel. However, I have worked really long hours (including weekends) for many years, sacrificing vacations with family and friends, to get to this stage of my career where I am professionally accomplished and can finally afford luxury items including the one Chanel handbag (or possibly two) that I have always wanted. And to be frank, I have more years behind me than in front of me. If I don't indulge myself now, I never will. I will buy and enjoy my handbag(s) for as long as I can and then pass it on to a younger woman who can't afford it so she can enjoy it/them for more years than I have.
Love this!
 
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Glad I'm not alone having this feeling!!!!
Due to the crazy price increasing each year have contributed to me feeling more stressed upon payment. It has happened (not once but twice!) that I have removed my card from the cardmachine and walked out saying "I need to think about it" due to its high price.. :whut:
I'm glad to read this thread too and you're not alone! Just happened on me exact same thing last week! lol
 
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