My mother and I both have very strong personalities. I don't have a boyfriend, and I don't want to get married right now, but I feel like I have to think about damage control now, before I get caught up in stuff down the line. Let me back up: Moving into my college dorm (all four years of college) I argued with her about what I wanted, she argued with me about what she wanted, we got into a big fight, and it ruined the moving experience. Moving into my apartment. I went in with the attitude that it would be all her and if I don't like something I can change it later. I gave her all the power and she still kept needling me and abusing that power. She had to keep a constant running commentary with "Caitlin? This goes, here. Okay? And this goes here." I wanted her to shut up for like five minutes. That ruined the moving experience. What's my next big event? My wedding! If I don't think of something, she's going to be one of those Mother of the Bridezillas, and it's not like I can change anything later. I want a day that's mine and about me. Part of me thinks that I'll just plan it with no input from her whatsoever. (But she has to have some input, otherwise there will be no help from my parents.) I know she does all this because she loves me and wants the best for me, but she can be a COMPLETE psycho about it. Like the girl that I am, I bring up things that I would like at my wedding. Usually it's "Whatever you want." Until I casually brought up the fact that I would like male attendants instead of bridesmaids. (I don't want the Gay Man's Chorus, but I'm closer to my guy friends right now, and I don't want to find girls just so I can fulfill the Female Quota). Immediately it was "No, you CAN'T have men standing up for you! You need girls!" God! I'm just thinking of doing a justice of the peace thing and then having my parents help me throw a rager later on. But then I think about how I want my dad to walk me down the aisle and I can't have my dad without my mom and I think I'm making too big a deal of this and it's freaking me out!