SIL says it's because I'm not Chinese.. it's that BS culture thing again!
Now it all makes sense why his mom's friends are still doing that matchmaking crap. I think it's Chinese tradition... The parents pick who you'll marry. It's BS if you ask me.
Where is he from?? I'm Chinese too and in our country, there's no such thing as matchmaking UNLESS you cant get a partner until a certain age.....then the parents will get paranoid..
Honestly, like what my husband always say.
"Are you married to me or my parents?"
I wouldnt care for their opinion now. As long as I have my husband and we are happy together, nothing more matters.. I have smiliar problem too.
My MIL is a very nice person, but deep down our heart ( my friends and I ), we know that she's just putting on an act. She always INDIRECTLY hinting my friends ( behind my back ) that I am very evil and I'm the one who turns her precious son from good to bad.. ( my husband and I are very different. He's the stay home type while I'm the rebellious type. )
The first time she met me was when my husband told his family that I was pregnant, which was about 4 years plus ago. She said she accept me into the family and lots of stuff but as we are too young ( me being 17 that year and my husband being 23 ), she asked me for an abortion. And yea, we went ahead... She's Christian... but well, maybe we are indeed too young *dont ask me about this.*
I've been living with my husband and his family ever since then and she has treated me VERY WELL in front of people.. but in between she spread nasty words about me.. and as usual, INDIRECTLY.
For e.g:
1) *Hubby and I has a shop* Customer were talking to me and her and she suddenly says "See, my daughter and I are so pretty..." Customer goes.. "your DIL is also very pretty" Then, she turned to me and stares and started laughing VERY loudly and says " Really?" Even the customer was staring at me with her shocking eyes... the customer was giving me this "Oh man, what the heck??" *And my MIL isnt pretty..This sounds mean.. I know.. But she's rather below average*
2) She was just talking to my best friend and she suddenly goes "Sigh, XXX was a good boy last time. He always listen to me.. But now...... " Arrrggghhh, she couldnt accept the fact that he's NOT a boy anymore and he has his own stand. She blames me for this.
3) She INSULTED my family in front of me. Because she thinks that she's very high class! My family is not well off and my Dad smokes.. She just look down on my family. She isnt earning a lot more than my Dad at the moment, but because she can speaks better English and have better education than my Dad, she thinks she's better. She once openly insulted my Mother in front of me. I was so pissed but I couldnt say anything at all.. My blood was boiling inside me.
4) She keep refering my daughter as "IT" when I was pregnant last year. She knows it's going to be a girl but she keep refering my baby as IT. I dont like that at all.
5) After my pregnancy, for chinese, there's this one month period where you rest and recup your health.. I'm supposed to get good food with nuritions and vitamins.. Throughout the whole month, she cooked less than 10 meals for me.. I guess 5 to 6 meals only.. At the start, my Mother wants me to go back home so that she can take care of me, but his Mother aint happy about it and she said she will take care of me. In the end? I end up with no dinner for a lot of days and was eating instant noodles... She only cook for me when there's vistors at the home. She will ask me to bring the food out to the living room and eat there.. Thats just to show the visitors that she cooks for me.
6) When Chinese mary, the guy's family has to offer a dowery to the female's side. When she knows that we are going to get married, her first reaction was "OH,WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO WITH THE DOWERY?" And when my husband said that my side doesnt require that, She went " REALLY? Are you sure? "
7) When planning our wedding lunch, she told me that I cannot invite all my relatives.. Only my uncles and aunties. I cant invite my cousins. That causes me a lot of problem. At the start, she doesnt even want to have any wedding lunch. She just want me to say my vows in front of them and my parents, sister and brother.
Anyway, my friends and I all agreed that she's trying to be a VERY nice person but she failed. She look down on the poor, is VERY racist against darker skin *no offences. It's not me* ( I don't know for what! Not as if she's something special ) She actually causes her brother's family to split.. * Since young, she keep telling her niece and nephew that their father is useless and stuffs. Now, the son doesnt like the father and the daughter run away from the family. She secretly eloped overseas *
AND...
I do not want my daughter to grow up around her. I KNOW she will backstab my family and tell nasty stuffs to my daughter.
And so, I think your life is much better
*Sorry for hijacking this thread*
