Warning...PGal rant here...
I want to preface this by saying I in NO WAY mean any offense to our tPF Admins out there...it's a grueling and often thankless job. I know this because I have done it myself for about 2 years after I finished university ('89-'91). I also want to say I make this post at the risk of it being taken out of context, but that's a risk I choose to take. So...here goes.
Brief background: I am a Senior Project Manager. This means I have the responsibility of getting teams together from various depts in our company to get projects done on time and at or under budget, meeting or exceeding expectations. AND...with no official authority over anyone on my project teams (meaning, I do not have direct reports).
I have been running a pretty high profile project at this relatively new job (started in September). It is more of a rampdown/shutdown for one of our departments (hence a negative undertone), but I'm grateful for the opportunity and challenge.
I've been working with a big team, but have a core team of 2 VPs and 1 Director (all men) who are a part of the good ol' boys club here. We all work on the same floor and all are in constant contact on a daily basis. The corporate culture here is one of banter, not conversation. It's rare to ask "hey, how's the wife/husband/kids." Very different from what I'm used to, but I have a good sense of humor, thick skin and am really not easily offended by too much of anything. Slowly but surely, these 3 gentlemen have learned that about me since we are working together so closely on this project and have been since January!
So...after a conference call today the 4 of us were commenting about the call. One of the VPs gets up to leave the conf room and turns to me, smiles and says "oh by the way, pursegrrl, Happy Administrative Professionals Day."
<insert screeching to a halt sound here.> The vibe immediately switched from joking around to me being PISSED. I said in a somewhat stern voice "...and why are you wishing that to me?" He said "Because that's a lot of what you do, right??" Awkward moment!! The other two men kind of looked away and I looked him straight in the eye and said "No, it's not." He asked a few more q's and I said very directly, "no, no and no" to each one. I then looked away and could sense how uncomfortable everyone was. The VP then left the room and the other 2 stayed. We changed the subject and wrapped up a few things before adjourning.
Fast forward a couple hours and the 4 of us (with a larger group) had another meeting. I could tell this guy was kind of avoiding my eyes when I looked at him to ask some questions about what he was working on for the deliverables but I didn't care.
I later went into his office and thought hmmm...I could rip him a new one or approach this with some humor. I opted for the latter. I shut his door and semi-chuckled "...<VP>, do you REALLY see what I do here as administrative assistant work?" He then got a little uneasy and said no, it was a joke. I am not inclined to believe that one bit, as much as he and I joke all the time. He was covering his butt for sure. I said you know, I realize the function of project management is relatively new here to this company, so there could very well be some misperceptions that I would be happy to clear up. He was very jumpy and said "oh no, no, I KNOW what you do..." Now, I could have grilled him and asked him for specifics about what he knows about what I do, but I think he got the message so I backed off.
I don't want to paint this guy in a bad light, but it was just so out of character for him. And, so out of character for me to let this BUG me so much. I guess it bugged me b/c I started wondering way deep down...do all these 3 guys all see what I do as supportive work rather than leadership?
I'm gonna chew on this one a bit more. And...thanks for those who have read all the way through this...it is really helpful just pouring it all out to y'all.
I want to preface this by saying I in NO WAY mean any offense to our tPF Admins out there...it's a grueling and often thankless job. I know this because I have done it myself for about 2 years after I finished university ('89-'91). I also want to say I make this post at the risk of it being taken out of context, but that's a risk I choose to take. So...here goes.
Brief background: I am a Senior Project Manager. This means I have the responsibility of getting teams together from various depts in our company to get projects done on time and at or under budget, meeting or exceeding expectations. AND...with no official authority over anyone on my project teams (meaning, I do not have direct reports).
I have been running a pretty high profile project at this relatively new job (started in September). It is more of a rampdown/shutdown for one of our departments (hence a negative undertone), but I'm grateful for the opportunity and challenge.
I've been working with a big team, but have a core team of 2 VPs and 1 Director (all men) who are a part of the good ol' boys club here. We all work on the same floor and all are in constant contact on a daily basis. The corporate culture here is one of banter, not conversation. It's rare to ask "hey, how's the wife/husband/kids." Very different from what I'm used to, but I have a good sense of humor, thick skin and am really not easily offended by too much of anything. Slowly but surely, these 3 gentlemen have learned that about me since we are working together so closely on this project and have been since January!
So...after a conference call today the 4 of us were commenting about the call. One of the VPs gets up to leave the conf room and turns to me, smiles and says "oh by the way, pursegrrl, Happy Administrative Professionals Day."
<insert screeching to a halt sound here.> The vibe immediately switched from joking around to me being PISSED. I said in a somewhat stern voice "...and why are you wishing that to me?" He said "Because that's a lot of what you do, right??" Awkward moment!! The other two men kind of looked away and I looked him straight in the eye and said "No, it's not." He asked a few more q's and I said very directly, "no, no and no" to each one. I then looked away and could sense how uncomfortable everyone was. The VP then left the room and the other 2 stayed. We changed the subject and wrapped up a few things before adjourning.
Fast forward a couple hours and the 4 of us (with a larger group) had another meeting. I could tell this guy was kind of avoiding my eyes when I looked at him to ask some questions about what he was working on for the deliverables but I didn't care.
I later went into his office and thought hmmm...I could rip him a new one or approach this with some humor. I opted for the latter. I shut his door and semi-chuckled "...<VP>, do you REALLY see what I do here as administrative assistant work?" He then got a little uneasy and said no, it was a joke. I am not inclined to believe that one bit, as much as he and I joke all the time. He was covering his butt for sure. I said you know, I realize the function of project management is relatively new here to this company, so there could very well be some misperceptions that I would be happy to clear up. He was very jumpy and said "oh no, no, I KNOW what you do..." Now, I could have grilled him and asked him for specifics about what he knows about what I do, but I think he got the message so I backed off.
I don't want to paint this guy in a bad light, but it was just so out of character for him. And, so out of character for me to let this BUG me so much. I guess it bugged me b/c I started wondering way deep down...do all these 3 guys all see what I do as supportive work rather than leadership?
I'm gonna chew on this one a bit more. And...thanks for those who have read all the way through this...it is really helpful just pouring it all out to y'all.