Hi Ladies!!
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So, I thought it would be fun to post a thread on "How Your DH, DF, or DBF Feels About Your CL Collection's" as I am curious to know myself!
Personally, I originally came up with this idea when my DBF/DF (in the process of getting engaged) said to me last week that if I purchased any more CL's with or without telling him that he would (quite literally) burn my shoe closet and break up with me.... and I mean this in all seriousness, exaggerations and all kidding aside. Now, I am certainly not trying to go off on him, I do love him very much, please don't get me wrong. I just have a hard time getting him to understand why I will spend "x" amount of dollars on a pair of Louboutin's or say any other designer shoe for that matter (which, for me is typically: YSL Tribtoo's and Brian Atwood) and how I feel that this then justifies the purchase and is therefore an investment for me. To which he typically counters (being the Law Student that he is) that, "well, if I spent what you do on CL's on video games (for example), hell that would be an investment too because I know that my cost-per-play would be the equivalent to your so-called cost-per-wear."
Also, just to clarify, all the CL's I purchase come out of my own earning's and bank account--I have never, ever asked my DBF/DF to purchase me a pair of CL's or any other designer shoes for that matter (even as a X-Mas or B-Day Gift) as I am just too prideful about it. :shame: This same concept applies to when we are dining out--I still hate it when he always feels the need to foot the bill because "he's the man," so typically and on occasion I will wave the waiter aside separately when my DBF/DF has either excused himself to the restroom or seems distracted and slip the waiter my card in advance.
Knowing how he feels about my CL's, I admit that I have hidden purchases from him in the past, but not always, to avoid having him feel upset. This usually backfires, as later on down the road he will eventually find out that I have purchased a new pair and then begin lecturing me and claiming that because I was not forthcoming about the purchases that this means I have therefore "lied" and am "untrustworthy" which deeply hurts as I am not that type of person in the least and do not feel like I have been either a liar or an untrustworthy girlfriend/fiancee. Sometimes the lectures will go so far that he threatens to sell my shoes on eBay, which I know is primarily said out of anger only, but still....
So, not only would I be curious as to hearing what your lovely DH/DF/DBF's think and feel about your CL's, but from my long-winded rant (sorry! ) I definitely think I could also use some pointer's in helping my DBF/DF understand moreso where I am coming from in regards to the CL's.
Thank you ladies so very much for letting me share my mini-story , I sincerely hope it wasn't too personal! And, thank you in advance as well for sharing with me your stories and words of wisdom!
Quick Side Note: I did a search in the forums in advance to posting this new thread and my searches were not returning any results for this topic, but if it has already been posted elsewhere, mod's please feel free to close and/or move this thread. Thank you!
:back2topic:
So, I thought it would be fun to post a thread on "How Your DH, DF, or DBF Feels About Your CL Collection's" as I am curious to know myself!
Personally, I originally came up with this idea when my DBF/DF (in the process of getting engaged) said to me last week that if I purchased any more CL's with or without telling him that he would (quite literally) burn my shoe closet and break up with me.... and I mean this in all seriousness, exaggerations and all kidding aside. Now, I am certainly not trying to go off on him, I do love him very much, please don't get me wrong. I just have a hard time getting him to understand why I will spend "x" amount of dollars on a pair of Louboutin's or say any other designer shoe for that matter (which, for me is typically: YSL Tribtoo's and Brian Atwood) and how I feel that this then justifies the purchase and is therefore an investment for me. To which he typically counters (being the Law Student that he is) that, "well, if I spent what you do on CL's on video games (for example), hell that would be an investment too because I know that my cost-per-play would be the equivalent to your so-called cost-per-wear."
Also, just to clarify, all the CL's I purchase come out of my own earning's and bank account--I have never, ever asked my DBF/DF to purchase me a pair of CL's or any other designer shoes for that matter (even as a X-Mas or B-Day Gift) as I am just too prideful about it. :shame: This same concept applies to when we are dining out--I still hate it when he always feels the need to foot the bill because "he's the man," so typically and on occasion I will wave the waiter aside separately when my DBF/DF has either excused himself to the restroom or seems distracted and slip the waiter my card in advance.
Knowing how he feels about my CL's, I admit that I have hidden purchases from him in the past, but not always, to avoid having him feel upset. This usually backfires, as later on down the road he will eventually find out that I have purchased a new pair and then begin lecturing me and claiming that because I was not forthcoming about the purchases that this means I have therefore "lied" and am "untrustworthy" which deeply hurts as I am not that type of person in the least and do not feel like I have been either a liar or an untrustworthy girlfriend/fiancee. Sometimes the lectures will go so far that he threatens to sell my shoes on eBay, which I know is primarily said out of anger only, but still....
So, not only would I be curious as to hearing what your lovely DH/DF/DBF's think and feel about your CL's, but from my long-winded rant (sorry! ) I definitely think I could also use some pointer's in helping my DBF/DF understand moreso where I am coming from in regards to the CL's.
Thank you ladies so very much for letting me share my mini-story , I sincerely hope it wasn't too personal! And, thank you in advance as well for sharing with me your stories and words of wisdom!