I know this thread is from last year but I imagine this is a discussion topic that could be helpful/useful for a lot of folx.
As many other tPFers mentioned, how we deal or cope is very situation-dependent, but in general, I have the following tools in my tool kit (it's always a good idea to have several ways to navigate stress and big feels in case a few of them don't feel right/work for me in a certain situation):
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I talk to my therapist. I understand therapy can be expensive, it's hard to find someone you connect with, and therapy can inaccessible for many (insurance may not cover it or only cover a few sessions), so if that is not an option...
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Talk to/share with people you trust. Letting the thoughts and feels out of your mind and out into the world takes some of the pressure off of yourself in navigating it alone. While it may feel difficult to sometimes share, you'll be amazed at the outpour of love and support that comes from your community. You'll realize you are not alone.
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Journal/write it down. Much like the point above, it gets the stuff out of your head and you get to see it on the page, and sometimes it helps to process everything by writing it down. You can notice/map trends, patterns and then develop action items for yourself. Nothing worse than feeling like everything is just too much, that you're drowning and helpless.
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Take walks/hikes, get fresh air to clear your head because sometime it's just a lot to feel and take on and you just need a moment to reset and zoom out.
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Exercise/Body Movement (it can be dance, yoga, running, biking, climbing, soccer, swimming), which will help produce endorphins, serotonin, all that good stuff. It's always a good idea to be in tune with your body.
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Read or watch something mindless and hilarious! We all need more levity and joy in our lives.
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Listen to some music that helps you relax or gets you excited and happy!
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Start a new hobby. Something that excites you, gets you jumping out of bed and inspired! Cooking, painting, learning a new language, playing an instrument, anything!
And remember, one thing at a time, one step at a time, and one day at a time. And if it's compounding issues, really trying to take time and space for yourself to zoom out, figure out what is in your control and what isn't, and focusing your energy on what you can control and how to best take care of yourself and the things you are important to you. Learning to accept and let go can help.
Good luck! And we're here for you and rooting for you,
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