Hi. Since there are so many creative fabulous tPFers, I need your advice and help figuring out how to celebrate my mom's birthday. It's a very important birthday for her and I want it to be special. I have a little over a month to plan/implement this.... My sister said that she hinted at wanting a party but I don't know if that's the best idea. I don't know all her friends, plus I don't like many of the ones I know (I know it's her birthday so I will be nice, but so many are rude and condescending to her ...). If I throw a large party people will be offended if they aren't invited (sort of like a wedding...). Perhaps a smaller party is better? ... Where should I throw the party? Any ideas for themes? Etc.? Or should I ditch the idea of a party altogether? If so, what should I do? Have a dinner at a restaurant? Go on some sort of getaway? Etc.? I want to do something special! I need ideas! Especially from people from Michigan (Detroit/Ann Arbor)! Some constraints/issues: * sisters in college (they won't be able to take time off to celebrate) * family/friends politics -- do I have to invite people I consider bad for my mom? It's her day, right? Do I have to be diplomatic? (Do I have to invite the cousins who just take advantage of my immediate family?) * young cousins -- do I have to invite them? (They just complicate things because they aren't always the most well-behaved) * I am planning this with minimial help (so far) from out of state Overall, I want my mom to have a good time. She loves nice things but is the type who will balk if you obviously spend too much money on her. I want her to feel beautiful and appreciated. Thanks so much!