Hi ladies. I need some help and expert advice! Got some Christmas $$$ and have been eyeing the Ali and her little sister, the slim flap (in Whiskey). Then I started thinking about the Mandy. I can only get one, but I don't know which one would best suit my needs! I teach college English (and I have a 14-month-old) so I carry a lot of junk around with me. Usually, I carry a tote (hand-held) and a smaller shoulder bag because I have shoulder and neck problems, so I can't tolerate a heavy bag on the shoulder. I know that a number of posters have said Mandy and Ali are quite heavy. Probably this would not be good for my bad shoulder. However, I think that Mandy can be worn crossbody? Is that true? If so, this would redistribute some of the weight and I could deal with it. The advantage here is it would probably fit all of my stuff, I think? (textbook, grammar manual, several manila folders stuffed with papers, wallet/wristlet, writing implements, a few cosmetics, etc.) Could I fit this stuff in the Ali too? Or should I go with the slim flap and continue to haul around a tote (usually non-Coach) in my other hand? Usually when I am out by myself with my son I don't carry a handbag (just a wristlet) in addition to the diaper bag. TIA for any advice!!! I am itching to get my dream bag, whatever it may be!