With all due respect, I can place an emotion to what I feel and I intensely dislike the cat. Would I hurt the cat? Never. Can I joke around and count the days until she dies? Sure - she's a cat and doesn't understand. Who said I am not letting her live her life in peace? She has cat beds in most rooms, fresh food and water throughout the day, a litter box that is cleaned twice daily and my husband who adores her. Excuse me but my heart is not exactly bleeding for this poor animal. There are humans who don't live as well as she does.
I feel for you. First at all, I don't know what I'd do if a cap took a crap in my bed...... second of all, I think you are very kind to that cat. Hang in there.