I'd be torn -
it's an A-freaking-mazing find, great deal
But, it's big (esp for 4'10") and heavy (esp when you're trying to handle 4 kids too) and white (did I mention the 4 kids?). Patent is "easy" but...
I wouldn't return it.
BUT, I don't think it's THE everyday bag for you.
Do keep it, it's your birthday gift!
I think you need a crossbody bag in a durable dark leather too!
Sorry, not much help!!