Have you made arrangements regarding jewelry youll leave behind?
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If I die before my husband he knows who to give my rings to, which is my sister--he will likely resize the band in advance since he has to go to Tiffany being my husband and we're the owners and transfer ownership. But my ering he'll give to her.
If he's not alive, Ill likely will it to my sister's son or if she has a daughter I become equally close to, her daughter. I have jewelry for my husband's niece that was from his grandma, that's already a definite to go to her.
If he's not alive, Ill likely will it to my sister's son or if she has a daughter I become equally close to, her daughter. I have jewelry for my husband's niece that was from his grandma, that's already a definite to go to her.
I hope that I have enough time as I get older to gift pieces to my DD or DILs. My children aren't yet old enough to really care about any jewelry, so it is hard to know which pieces might mean something to them. I would assume that if I were to die the kids would split them up as they see fit (presuming they were adults and DH were also gone).
I was just talking about this with my 13yo DD. She wants my diamond locket and my engagement ring. I told her all the jewelry will be hers - but that I'd like her to be generous with my son's significant other and any children he has. As well as her own children, of course. I'll also be inheriting several of my grandmother's pieces. There'll be enough to go around!
we don't have kids, so my dh and I have discussed this (though we haven't put anything in writing yet).. his sister's daughter (only niece on his side) would get anything he gave me. everything that I've gotten via my family (grandma's pieces, etc) would go to my sister to keep in the family in case she ever has kids.
Wow! It really seems to be a hard decision. I have a friend and shes now 46. No more hope in having children. She is kinda regretting that she bought a lot. She is thinking of selling them but shes still quite fond of them. Shes just worried that now that shes living alone, her investments would just be wasted if anything unexpected happens to her.
She could probably have a clause in her will that her estate (her jewelry in this case is her concern) could be sold to (name an auction house or jeweler she selects) the proceeds from the sale can be given to charity.
This is a great question. When my husband's mother passed away (before I met my husband) my FIL held onto everything. Eventually he gave it ALL to my SIL. Sadly, my daughters have no family heirlooms from their father's side. The sister has held onto literally everything.
My pieces will be divided among our children This is one reason why I purchased several VCA necklaces as two 10's (vs one long 20). My plan is to start giving it away while I'm still alive in order to enjoy seeing them enjoy the pieces.
People get really weird sometimes about valuables after loves ones pass away. I don't want to create hard feelings once I am gone.
My pieces will be divided among our children This is one reason why I purchased several VCA necklaces as two 10's (vs one long 20). My plan is to start giving it away while I'm still alive in order to enjoy seeing them enjoy the pieces.
People get really weird sometimes about valuables after loves ones pass away. I don't want to create hard feelings once I am gone.
I'm having my will restated with clauses for my jewelry. One BF will get my purple chalcedony bracelet and tanzanite. She loves purple and tanzanite. The other pieces, save my wedding set, will go to my cousins. I've recently told them of this plan and stressed that they are not to sell pieces for pure profit as one cousin's DH would suggest. I would like to see them enjoy the pieces that give me so much joy. This is also contingent that they give me a proper burial and not let me be buried in Potter's Field should I go after DH.
A local woman who was a successful investment banker passed away without much family. The items in her houser were auctioned but I can't recall if the profits were being donated to charity.
^ I like the idea of giving it away while you can still see others enjoy the trinkets. That is a great idea! It is so true that people can go a little crazy sometimes when the thought of inheriting money/material goods come into the picture.
I have one daughter who will inherit my jewelry. And I hope to give over some when she's an adult as my grandmother and mother did with me.
I do think I should slow down on the eternity bands though - the likelihood of us having the same finger size is not great....
I do think I should slow down on the eternity bands though - the likelihood of us having the same finger size is not great....
My sweet grandma put little stickers on her jewelry saying who got what. She actually put stickers on everything! And you know what? Most of us left those stickers on the stuff; her handwriting and the little drawn hearts are as dear to us as the objects.
I do think it's good to sensibly realize though that often our taste won't be others' taste, and to make it clear in our will that it's okay to sell or have pieces re-worked. And having dealt with several estates, this, absolutely:
Make a list of all the items, where and when you got them, their maker, how much they cost then, and if they're designer, how much they go for now. Keep a copy in or near your jewelry box. If there's a story behind the piece--like, your grandpa bought this for me at an outdoor market in Bangkok in 1962, we were so much in love--include that, because you are likely the only one who knows that story, and thst's what those who truly love you want to know. Our jewelry is our autobiography! And even if it's racy or slightly scandalous--"the first boy I ever kissed gave me this charm bracelet my senior year of high school"--well, you won't be around to have to answer questions!!
I do think it's good to sensibly realize though that often our taste won't be others' taste, and to make it clear in our will that it's okay to sell or have pieces re-worked. And having dealt with several estates, this, absolutely:
Make a list of all the items, where and when you got them, their maker, how much they cost then, and if they're designer, how much they go for now. Keep a copy in or near your jewelry box. If there's a story behind the piece--like, your grandpa bought this for me at an outdoor market in Bangkok in 1962, we were so much in love--include that, because you are likely the only one who knows that story, and thst's what those who truly love you want to know. Our jewelry is our autobiography! And even if it's racy or slightly scandalous--"the first boy I ever kissed gave me this charm bracelet my senior year of high school"--well, you won't be around to have to answer questions!!