Speaking from a hairstylist point of view.....You mentioned that you colored your hair black to cover the GREY. The reason why I'm pointing this out is because as we get older the darker the hair, the OLDER we look. I use to have a few clients who had always dyed their hair black for years and never realized when they reached a certain age (depending on the person, around 35-40), black made them look old and washed out. Some of them were very reluctant but, they really trusted my judgement so they let me try a new color. I used either a highlighting technique or full color treatment, depending.....the results were 100% positive. Obviously, you look fashionable to her and she THOUGHT you had a really easy going personality and wouldn't mind a change (it can easily be fixed by the way). I would ask a friend or family member that you value their fashion option and ask them "How do you like my new haircolor?" Honestly, if your hairstylist DIDN'T CARE about you, she wouldn't try something like this, she'd just let you continue dying your hair black and collect your money!
Hair stylist problem
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D & G rockstar said:Ginger,
I've been seeing the same hair stylist for about 10 + years. He is like my friend, but more so my hair stylist. One time he did these horrible highlights on my head (the color was not consistent from root to tip), and i was soooo upset, but he fixed it for me in no time. I was still disgruntled for a short time after that though and eventually got over it.. because no one can do my hair like he doesHair is everything to me... it's the "ultimate accessory." So of course if you were adamant about not getting your hair burgundy, you should definitely say something. I'd be upset!
Do you hate your hair now or do you like it, but just upset that your hairstylist didn't oblige your request? I think your hairstylist had your best interest, at the time, even though that was totally wrong to do it without letting you know.
I wouldn't break the relationship w/ the stylist. If your hair is taken care of the way you like it most of the time, stick w/ the hairstylist. Just let her know that if she's going to do something different, to let you know.
Thanks you so much D&G Rockstar...you are so correct...this is exactly how I feel. I don't want to break what has been a great relationship; I'll let her know how I feel. I don't totally hate what she did to my hair I just don't want her to take those kind of liberties again. Thanks everyone...I'm going to talk to her tomorrow as you've all suggested. You guys have been terrific; you helped me to think this through. I can't believe I ran home and went to the PF for help...you guys are terrific.
Thanks a million...
I'm feeling better and better.
Your hairstylist was out of line. Period. IMO you have to straigthen her out. It is your hair. What you say goes. Period. I'd be really angry if my hairstylist took that liberty with me. You have to say something to her otherwise she might do something more drastic in the future without your consent.
Wow, I just can't believe a stylist would dye your hair a color that you did not OK...that is just ODD!
If I were you, I'd personally approach her and let her know that you are unhappy with the color, and that although you are not sure whether she did it on purpose, you'd like it changed to the color you wish. Also, make it VERY clear that it should never happen again.
Good luck!
If I were you, I'd personally approach her and let her know that you are unhappy with the color, and that although you are not sure whether she did it on purpose, you'd like it changed to the color you wish. Also, make it VERY clear that it should never happen again.
Good luck!
Ginger, thanks for sharing. I am as interested reading all the replies as your note. If this had happened to me I would be so angry I'd explode! I feel my heart beating faster just reading about it! May-be I'm crazy! Not only did she break trust with you -- I suspect that what she did is illegal -- she put stuff on you without your consent!
She has no business deciding what's best for you. It's your right to say what you want and get what you ask for. I'm truly amazed that your hair stylist would take it upon herself to do this to you -- what chutzpah!
But as I say, my response is one of many. It is truly enlightening to me to read the others and to hear people saying they would talk to the hair stylist and get her input.
She has no business deciding what's best for you. It's your right to say what you want and get what you ask for. I'm truly amazed that your hair stylist would take it upon herself to do this to you -- what chutzpah!
But as I say, my response is one of many. It is truly enlightening to me to read the others and to hear people saying they would talk to the hair stylist and get her input.
next time you go, say
"____, I really like the haircuts you give me but next time please do not do anything like that to my hair again without my permission!"
I really think she crossed a line here!
"____, I really like the haircuts you give me but next time please do not do anything like that to my hair again without my permission!"
I really think she crossed a line here!
I would call the salon speak to the manager get your hair redyed to black AT NO CHARGE and find someone new. That was a total violation of trust and she deserves not one more penny from you and by dealing with the owner/manager then your point is made because the redye will come from HER split-the shop will NOT eat it!
I don't think she put the new color in your hair maliciously. She ovbiously had an idea of how you should look and crossed the line when she took those liberties with you. It might be different if you were unsure about the new color but you unequivocally told her to use black. Anyway, being someone who hates conflict as well, I would still work up the courage to tell her that she went a little too far. Good luck and please keep us updated. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
Well Ladies here's how the story ends and do I ever have egg on my face. It took days for me to go over to her shop as I was so upset but it all turned out well. I didn't have to say a word to her. When I walked in the door she was looked straight at me and said "look at your hair; that color didn't take. Let me fix it for you right now. She was very apologetic thought a bit... looked at it...and said you know that's Lynn's color she was in here the day I did your hair. I'll bet I made a mistake and used the wrong color". You know what I believe her. 
I carried a friend with me for support and the friend also felt she was telling the truth. I am so relieved as I truly like this lady and I so appreciate all of your comments during my hysteria. 
Thanks again I learned to have some faith not always think the worst. 
I carried a friend with me for support and the friend also felt she was telling the truth. I am so relieved as I truly like this lady and I so appreciate all of your comments during my hysteria. Thanks again I learned to have some faith not always think the worst. 
I think that its your hair- you should get exxactly what you want, the hairdresser shouldn't do w,e he or she wants to do on you! Just think about it-you're the one who will actually be affected by the haircut, not the stylist!