I want to hear your thoughts on this subject.... SHORT VERSION- does anyone have problems with SO not getting creative with gifts? Where the gift feels compassionless? LONG VERSION... I am a very giving person... I have been very blessed and love to buy my friends flowers, my hubby cool gifts- clothing computer crap, buy nice things for my folks, etc. But when it comes to getting creative thoughtful things in return from my Hubby it's just not happening! Note: He used to be very creative with gifts, love notes, etc. But now it seems a contstant frustration for me. Now granted my husband just graduated and does not have a job yet, and says he doesn't feel comfortable spending my money. I have always told him whatever money WE make is OUR money.... but anyway... At christmas I gave him lists of ideas, I constantly pointed out ideas, etc. And he did a great job and did use some thought and didn't buy directly from the list. But I hate making lists, giving ideas, etc. because that, IMO, takes away from my reason for giving gifts. I do it to show people that I listen to them, I know what they like, and I spend loads of time finding the perfect thing just for them! So for my Bday, I didn't drop any hints. It's 2 weeks after Christmas, so he should know what I'm liking at the moment. And I didn't get crap! (He wrote happy birthday on my mirror in my bathroom.) We went to the store a couple days after and I bought a coffee machine that I had been wanting and we called it my Bday gift. Well I buy myself things that I want pretty much whenever I want, within reason of course, but I don't see how this is a gift from him! I would have rather had a homemade card and a spaghettios that he cooked! That would be more like the gifts I give to him! I put so much thought into them, and when I tell him this is what I want and he goes and just gets it, to me it's pointless. Same thing goes for Valentine's day. I have put a lot of thought into this special day, bought him some shares in a stock he likes, I'm renting a cabin in Hot Springs for the upcoming weekend, and mailed him a cute valentines package with goodies in it (so he would have something to open while I'm out of town for the next few days.) Plus a few more little things. But I don't think he has done ANYTHING! I get home thursday night at 6:10 and we leave for Hot Springs on Friday AM. I don't think he has even thought about it because I'm out of town... and I hate to even ask him if he has done anything or does he need ideas, etc. But I did ask and every lame excuse possible came out of his mouth, proving to me that no thought was put into it... Now I don't even want anything...because I feel he is only doing it because I am expecting something! Sorry for the rant and details! but let me hear your thoughts!