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forgetmenot301

forgetmenot301

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Hi, would love some opinions on wether or not I’m over thinking this. I have a wonderful childhood friend who is finally pregnant with her first. She’s endured unexplained fertility & a few rounds of IVF. She is not into Hermes at all or luxury. Her shower is coming up and I purchased her the cashmere baby set (hat, booties, & mittens). Didn’t think much of it while I was at the store but once I got home I immediately felt weird. She’s quite practical and I’m worried that I should have just put that money towards something amazing on her registry. I was already planning on getting some other items on her registry for her shower & giving her the H gift in private. I will add that as a mom of 2 who is done having kids and now that I’ve gotten rid of the baby trinkets, bobbles, etc…that you “need” during those exhausting times I now wish I had a sweet set of mittens or a blanket to store away to remember this stage. The necessary baby things gets donated or thrown away. It’s not that I’m worried she won’t appreciate it (that’s not why I did it) and in fact I really hope she doesn’t realize what the set costs because she would probably get mad at me :lol:. I should add that she is very detailed and loves matching every detail of her outfit hence the matching baby set. I just know how much she has wanted a baby and I wanted something that will last or be a keepsake to celebrate. So I guess my biggest question is have you gifted baby things to “non H friends” and has it gone okay?
 
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spidermann said:
I haven't, but i could totally see someone accidentally putting the baby set in the donate pile without realizing the cost :doh:
especially some people are minimalists and dont like storing things long term just for memory's sake. i do think a baby blanket would be nice, and could still be used even as a throw or decoration in the house later on?
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You are so right! I think I may text my SA in the AM and switch the set out for the blanket. My SA suggested the blanket first so I’m kicking myself for not going with that.
 
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i agree. I am also practical but I get what youre saying about a special keepsake. I think the baby blanket is amazing and I love the pattern on that H castle one!!! I would looove to have receive that as a gift even if Im not into Hermes.
 
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As a baby shower or 1st birthday, I've gifted all my non-H friends stuff from Hermes. It's actually the opposite for my H friends. I do not gift them H baby items because chances are, they already have it and/or might be planning on buying it. I wouldn't want them to end up with multiples of the same item.
 
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addiCCted said:
i agree. I am also practical but I get what youre saying about a special keepsake. I think the baby blanket is amazing and I love the pattern on that H castle one!!! I would looove to have receive that as a gift even if Im not into Hermes.
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iseebearbears said:
As a baby shower or 1st birthday, I've gifted all my non-H friends stuff from Hermes. It's actually the opposite for my H friends. I do not gift them H baby items because chances are, they already have it and/or might be planning on buying it. I wouldn't want them to end up with multiples of the same item.
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lill_canele said:
Another vote for the blanket. It's probably one that will be used the longest and be the one that is most likely kept as a keepsake.
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You guys are great! Thanks for the feedback. Texted my SA and will pop in tomorrow and switch them out. A blanket will be used way more and far more practical which matches my friends energy too.
 
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My general rule of thumb with gifts is that if the recipient won't appreciate it, I don't get it. I definitely love the suggestion of switching to the blanket because a really beautiful blanket can stay with a child and a family for a long time (I still have the blanket my great-aunt and uncle gave me when I was born!).
 
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Just wanted to say you are the sweetest friend! I agree with the blanket. We still use a (non-H) cashmere blanket on our toddler in the car, it's the same one he came home with from the hospital. While I think the hat/booties/mittens are the sweetest and so cute, they'll outgrow that so fast. I also was in a haze postpartum so didn't even look at some presents for a month or two.
 
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skybluesky said:
Just wanted to say you are the sweetest friend! I agree with the blanket. We still use a (non-H) cashmere blanket on our toddler in the car, it's the same one he came home with from the hospital. While I think the hat/booties/mittens are the sweetest and so cute, they'll outgrow that so fast. I also was in a haze postpartum so didn't even look at some presents for a month or two.
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Thank you! And I totally feel you. The postpartum haze is really no joke :shocked:
 
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A bottle of Red said:
Congratulations to your friend!
As a mom of a lot of kids, something easy to wash would be my first priority because lots of babies spit up or have diaper blow outs and no one wants to be too nervous to wash an item in hot water to fully clean it or be worried about ruining it.
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100% agree!! The blanket I’m going to exchange it for is cotton and washable per my SA. She originally brought out the $700 sleep sack and all I could think of was sleepless nights, blow outs, diaper leaks, etc… I immediately said no on the sleep sack :lol: Ill personally stick to the halo brand one for $30. 99% of baby things need to be extremely easy to rinse, wash and repeat, right?! :lol:

And bless you for being a mom of many kids! I’m so good with my 2, phew :sleeping:
 
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jimmyshoogirl said:
I haven’t bought baby gifts from H yet for anyone. However, I have bought H gifts for non-H buying and they all received them very well!

Congrats to your friend! I assure you after struggling to get pregnant and to then be able to give birth she will be BEYOND happy with receive EVERYTHING! :lol:
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Aw! So very true! Love your last sentence!! It’s also hard because I got pregnant easily (feel very blessed) with my second when she was already struggling to get pregnant with her first so I have harbored some guilt over that. So I am over the moon and beyond happy for her!! I cannot wait to shower her with all the gifts and love. She is honestly going to be a phenomenal mom. It’ll be fun to see :heart:
 
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