Gift from grandfather

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pinkdewy

pinkdewy

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Hi all,

My late father has left us some money. I would like to buy a gift for my 14 year old daughter for her to remember her grandfather.
I am leaning towards a piece of gold jewellery which can last for a very long time. It doesn't have to be jewellery but this is what I have in mind right now.
So I brought her to Tiffany - she chose bean and the RTT necklace.
Appreciate any help to make our decision?

Thank you in advance!

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lill_canele said:
That’s very sweet. I’m sorry about your father’s passing; may he rest in peace.:heart:

Quick question, if I may, did your daughter let you know why she chose those 2 necklaces? Are either of them meaningful to her?
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Thank you dear :)

I don't think they meant anything to her. The other designs might be too overwhelming to her.
She did ask to try on the diamond by the yard heart pendant but it was too underwhelming so we dropped it.
I also thought of the VCA sweet alhambra in MOP but it might be too delicate. Now that I think of it the sweet alhambra in hammered RG might work. No hurry for this just slowly shopping for ideas at the moment.
 
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ONE piece of jewellery will always be more meaningful. Your daughter is only 14 and what may suit her now may not in even 10 years time. However, the actual piece will always have a sentimental place in her heart. I think 2 dilutes the message.

One or the other, spend the rest of the money having a wonderful celebration of the man's life (or putting it into savings for your daughter). I am sure you will both treasure an experience together forever, or your daughter can start to think of something meaningful/practical.
 
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papertiger said:
ONE piece of jewellery will always be more meaningful. Your daughter is only 14 and what may suit her now may not in even 10 years time. However, the actual piece will always have a sentimental place in her heart. I think 2 dilutes the message.

One or the other, spend the rest of the money having a wonderful celebration of the man's life (or putting it into savings for your daughter). I am sure you will both treasure an experience together forever, or your daughter can start to think of something meaningful/practical.
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Hi sorry if i did confuse you here. Yes I plan on getting just one piece not both. I gave her options to shortlist what she likes so ya... Putting it towards her savings is a good idea as well. Thank you for taking your time for me.
 
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pinkdewy said:
Thank you dear :smile:

I don't think they meant anything to her. The other designs might be too overwhelming to her.
She did ask to try on the diamond by the yard heart pendant but it was too underwhelming so we dropped it.
I also thought of the VCA sweet alhambra in MOP but it might be too delicate. Now that I think of it the sweet alhambra in hammered RG might work. No hurry for this just slowly shopping for ideas at the moment.
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Got it.

Well, thinking of it another way:
Even if she currently does not associate the design with something meaningful, it may become meaningful when she is older. Knowing that when she was 14 and she chose this at the time to remember her grandfather, is a memory in and of itself.

For the Tiffany necklaces, they are both pretty classic and timeless, so I think either one is good! Even if they end up not being her aesthetic when she grows up, I'm sure she will still treasure it and, when she wants to, wear it in his memory.

Just a side note:
If she is a very active young lady, the only thing I would check on is the thickness of the chain. Tiffany chains are know to be more on the delicate side. I have a DBTY solitaire diamond and the chain is very fine. I'm not saying it's weak or anything like that. I shower with it and never take it off. But I think a strong tug would probably snap it tbh.
Just thinking of scenarios like if her hair gets tangled in and she just instinctively just wants to yank the hair away from the necklace etc. (Not sure if this will be a daily piece for her or more of a special occasion necklace.)

Though I personally do agree with @papertiger to save the money for her future is a good idea as well. Perhaps she can still get something, just maybe something that isn't too pricy (so the rest can be saved).
 
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I think the bean is a beautiful and timeless piece that will grow with her. I own a bean necklace in rose gold and absolutely adore it and I am in my forties. I gifted my daughter the silver bean when she turned 14 to symbolize new beginnings as she was becoming a young woman. She wears it often. It is probably my most worn necklace because it is simple and elegant. I also like that it slides easily on the chain but can’t fall off or be removed. Iconic Tiffany Elsa Peretti piece for sure. Good luck with your decision and sorry for your loss.
 
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casiecn said:
I think the bean is a beautiful and timeless piece that will grow with her. I own a bean necklace in rose gold and absolutely adore it and I am in my forties. I gifted my daughter the silver bean when she turned 14 to symbolize new beginnings as she was becoming a young woman. She wears it often. It is probably my most worn necklace because it is simple and elegant. I also like that it slides easily on the chain but can’t fall off or be removed. Iconic Tiffany Elsa Peretti piece for sure. Good luck with your decision and sorry for your loss.
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What size is your bean?
 
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I’m so sorry for your family’s loss, may he rest in Peace. This is a very lovely and sweet idea.

Just throwing this out there, besides going with a solid gold design if she is open to gemstones how about choosing one that is in the birthstone of your late father? In that way it’s a bit more symbolic of what the necklace would represent. But of course it’s important to choose what she likes and would wear proudly and happily. Incorporating his birthstone would be very lovely IMO. There are many modern brands out there that specialize in various birthstone designs as well, it’s very popular with the young crowd. I’m not sure if the branding is very important to you but there’s a lot of beautiful options out there too.
 
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tenshix said:
I’m so sorry for your family’s loss, may he rest in Peace. This is a very lovely and sweet idea.

Just throwing this out there, besides going with a solid gold design if she is open to gemstones how about choosing one that is in the birthstone of your late father? In that way it’s a bit more symbolic of what the necklace would represent. But of course it’s important to choose what she likes and would wear proudly and happily. Incorporating his birthstone would be very lovely IMO. There are many modern brands out there that specialize in various birthstone designs as well, it’s very popular with the young crowd. I’m not sure if the branding is very important to you but there’s a lot of beautiful options out there too.
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Hi there, good idea on the birthstone. I will take it into consideration. Taking it slowly now..
 
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