Hello all!
I didn't know exactly where this thread belonged whether in here, or in General discussion. Mods, please move if needed.
So, I don't know if I am the only one who has to deal with friends or just a certain friend in my case, who ask to borrow things constantly instead of just buying their own things. I am a very selfless person and have never minded sharing but I do have a friend who will borrow anything and everything she can because she knows more than likely I will have it!
She's asked to borrow long sleeve tops from me when she went up to Big Bear with her boyfriend as well as my snow boots, when she has a party to go to she asks if she can go "shopping" in my closet for dresses, she will ask to use my lipgloss when we are at work or any other makeup I may have that day with me, when she's at my place she will spray my perfume on her, and lo and behold TODAY she sent me a text asking if we can put my clip-in extensions in her hair to see what they will look like "just for fun". I respond asking if she wanted to literally wear them around or if it was just to try them in to see if she liked them which would be totally ok with me, and she said " Well, if they look good i'll wanna wear them for a few days."
Let me inform you all, if you didn't already know, I am a hairdresser. And, well, SO IS SHE!! All of my co-workers/clients always compliment me on how they can't tell when I wear the clip-in extensions because they look so real and natural. My friend has short hair and i've told her many of times to get them but she refuses because she doesn't want to spend the money (they cost $130 and last a LONG time) I've told her for how well they work and how long they last it's not a lot of money to dish out ONE time.
I kindly responded to her text by saying I really don't feel comfortable with letting her wear them because I find it a bit gross, no offense to her but I almost feel like its like sharing underwear, haha. I wear them often and I wash them every 3 times that I wear them so it's not like they are grimey, but to have them in someone else's head for a few days doesn't sit right with me. Besides that, I dished out the money for them and feel I should be the one doing the wear and tear, not my friends. I told her that we can put them in and see how good they look on her and if she liked them we should get her a set and i'd be more than happy to help her with them. After I explained myself she responded with "Nevermind..." I asked her "Why?" and she said "Nevermind!!!" So I said "Okay..."
I mean am I in the wrong here? I feel bad for the way she responded so rudely after I was just being honest with her. I am kind enough to share my other things with her but i can't help but think she is just too cheap to buy her own things. I work hard for the things I enjoy to use and buy for myself and I feel she should too. After today, I don't even feel like letting her borrow anything from here on out.
Thanks for taking the time to read my story!
I didn't know exactly where this thread belonged whether in here, or in General discussion. Mods, please move if needed.
So, I don't know if I am the only one who has to deal with friends or just a certain friend in my case, who ask to borrow things constantly instead of just buying their own things. I am a very selfless person and have never minded sharing but I do have a friend who will borrow anything and everything she can because she knows more than likely I will have it!
She's asked to borrow long sleeve tops from me when she went up to Big Bear with her boyfriend as well as my snow boots, when she has a party to go to she asks if she can go "shopping" in my closet for dresses, she will ask to use my lipgloss when we are at work or any other makeup I may have that day with me, when she's at my place she will spray my perfume on her, and lo and behold TODAY she sent me a text asking if we can put my clip-in extensions in her hair to see what they will look like "just for fun". I respond asking if she wanted to literally wear them around or if it was just to try them in to see if she liked them which would be totally ok with me, and she said " Well, if they look good i'll wanna wear them for a few days."
Let me inform you all, if you didn't already know, I am a hairdresser. And, well, SO IS SHE!! All of my co-workers/clients always compliment me on how they can't tell when I wear the clip-in extensions because they look so real and natural. My friend has short hair and i've told her many of times to get them but she refuses because she doesn't want to spend the money (they cost $130 and last a LONG time) I've told her for how well they work and how long they last it's not a lot of money to dish out ONE time.
I kindly responded to her text by saying I really don't feel comfortable with letting her wear them because I find it a bit gross, no offense to her but I almost feel like its like sharing underwear, haha. I wear them often and I wash them every 3 times that I wear them so it's not like they are grimey, but to have them in someone else's head for a few days doesn't sit right with me. Besides that, I dished out the money for them and feel I should be the one doing the wear and tear, not my friends. I told her that we can put them in and see how good they look on her and if she liked them we should get her a set and i'd be more than happy to help her with them. After I explained myself she responded with "Nevermind..." I asked her "Why?" and she said "Nevermind!!!" So I said "Okay..."
I mean am I in the wrong here? I feel bad for the way she responded so rudely after I was just being honest with her. I am kind enough to share my other things with her but i can't help but think she is just too cheap to buy her own things. I work hard for the things I enjoy to use and buy for myself and I feel she should too. After today, I don't even feel like letting her borrow anything from here on out.
Thanks for taking the time to read my story!