Ok I have a friend lets call her Betsy. Betsy and I have been cool since about 2000 we met working for the same company and started hanging out. Betsy has had a few run ins with some not so respectful guys. She was seeing this one guy who totaly ignored her and the only way she could get his attention was to treat him to dinner, movies and buy him gifts I told her I didnt think that was cool, this was all happening back about 3 years ago. We lost touch for a while after I got married 4 yrs ago cause she stopped calling me and when I would call her she would seem uninterested in conversating with me, same thing happened with a few others after I got married. Now here's the problem Betsy and I started hanging out again last summer and I noticed she is always asking me about DH. For example if we are on the phone I will start talking to her about something and outta nowhere she is like "so what time does your husband get home" Or a few weeks ago I let her borrow my ceramic hair iron and when she came over to return it I was in the bathroom putting on my makeup, hubby and I were about to have a date night. So she says "where is your husband?what time is he coming home?" So at this point i'm thinking ok whats going on here, this isnt the fist time she has said this and the time I mentioned before wasnt the first either. So I replied to her "He went to play basketball at the gym, he will be here soon" So she seemed to be standing around waiting for him to come When hubby arrived he spoke and went straight to our bedroom (to change I guess) I was in the bathroom and she was standing in the hallway. I was talking to her and she started talking to my husband it was as if she was more interested in talking to him than me. And hubby usually just ignores her for the most part and gives one word answers. So you will not believe what she said to him, she says "Did you have fun playing ball? whats wrong you're sore?" meanwhile I am in the bathroom just in a bit of shock that she thinks its ok to say something like this to her friends husband. I guess it would be different if they were also friends. Anyway hubby pretty much ignored her and ended up shutting the bedroom door. Do you all think she may have the hots for him or am I just a bit paranoid In a way I think she may just be lonely, what do you all think?