Seems my intent with that comment has been misread. Think of it this way: all things being equal anyone would prefer the best things in life. The difference is that most people with more income, born or risen to priviledge, can and proudly do purchase status items. Not every multimillionaire is going to be like Sam Walton and drive a Ford pickup truck when he could afford a fleet of Rolls Royces.
There's nothing at all wrong with saying you want the best and own the best, but it all boils down to the simple fact that with handbags as an example: nobody needs a $1000-$40,0000 bag to carry their wallet and car keys in. Part of status is having quality made items with the best fabrics and best leathers. There's nothing wrong with that, but there's nothing wrong with admitting that it gives you pleasure to own these things. It may not be an "in your face" display of status, but owning the best is in fact, a show of status.
There is nothing wrong with admitting it,
if it is true.
But to insist that others should 'Be honest' and admit that they buy designer bags as a show of status, just because you do (and to thereby insinuate that anyone who doesn't admit it is dishonest), is incorrect.
An analogy would be to try to force everyone who has ever dated Brad Pitt to admit that they did so for the status and refuse to accept that they actually did so for his looks, talent and personality.
To pursue this analogy, despite his beauty, I would hesitate to date Brad Pitt, as I would be concerned that the 'logo', which is his face, is too well known and that I'd never get any privacy!
That is also how I have felt when I have carried more obviously designer bags in the past; women approaching me in airports, asking what my BF does for a living, harder up friends looking despondently at them etc...
...I hate it!!!
Personally, I only buy designs I truly love, I rarely buy 'it' bags and I almost never wear/carry obvious logos. In addition, I also try to avoid telling almost everyone I know who they are by and where I bought them.
So, if I'm going for a show of status, I'm doing a pretty poor job!
I'll admit that I enjoy getting compliments on my items, but only if they are compliments on the design. Anyone with the money can hand the credit card over, but not everyone is creative enough to choose beautiful items and put them together imaginatively.
That, perhaps, is my show of status.
I'm talking strictly well off individuals here. I certainly would never look down my nose at a woman carrying said "Kmart" bag. In her world, that may be just as special as any Birkin (probably more so). I've also walked in the shoes of a Kmart woman and have been thrilled to have owned $40 leather bags. I'm now in a position to afford much better quality bags. I'm not ashamed to admit that I do carry them. I earned my way to this income level. I don't mind a bit if someone recognizes that through my bag or my lifestyle, nor does it bother me if they don't.
This is my point.
PS-I HATE logo bags and would never own one.
I, personally, have had (and continue to have) a roller coaster of a life, financially speaking. Partially due to my family circumstances and partially due to my career choices and like you, I would never look down my nose at anyone's posessions.
I also agree that nobody should be ashamed to have worked their way up the career ladder. However (and I think this may well be a UK verses US difference), I think in this country, we are still slightly less comfortable with the 'I'm considerably richer than you' attitude; however hard the person has worked to get there.
Most of us (with some notable exceptions) are conscious of not wanting to make others feel uncomfortable, just because we are lucky enough to be in a higher paying job.
After all, it's not necessarily a person's fault that they can't (and may never) afford nice things and lower paid, often doesn't mean less hard working, or less vital to society.
Often quite the reverse.